I just realized something has really been bothering me lately.
Last year... you could say I was "boy crazy." It seemed like having a boyfriend was the number one priority in my life at the time....
I finally understood it wasn't, and I needed to focus on my education more then anything else. The only thing is.. I just figured that out last summer. I went through a really rocky summer.
I got home from visiting my dad for most of the summer (he had left a couple of months ago for work to live somewhere else temporarley for 2 years), and setteled in back home... when about a month later I got molested.
Everything went downhill from there.. I lost friends, couldn't handle relationships with guys anymore, got depressed and started cutting...
Then my previous bf and I had some history if you know what I mean.. and I didn't freak out on him when it happened, but later when I got home I jsut didn't feel right at all.
I'm so confused... Idk if it was cuz of wat happened this summer or no...
2007-02-04 15:41:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You put some tears in my eyes Hon.
Your decision to focus on building your life, & maybe a career through your education is a great one (very mature).
It sounds like maybe you don't get enough attention from your Dad. That could explain why you were seeking validation from boys earlier on.
You didn't say anything about your relationship with your molester, whether or not it was a stranger, relative, friend or what. I hope you reported it. If you didn't then I recommend that you do so without further delay. Reporting the molestation will open doors for councelling & the healing that you need by seeing that your molester is stopped for good. So don't report him because you think it is the right thing to do about him. Do it because it is the right thing to do for yourself.
If you are trying to deal with the trauma of having been molested on your own, then that could be a good explanation for why you are resorting to cutting yourself, as well as your feelings of confusion, depression, & loss of long-term relationships.
Think of it. If you can trace your downward spiral back to this one terrible event, then YES it is because of what happened.
Nothing will get better until you start to face it, & get some councelling to help you work through your feelings about what happened to you.
I want to give you a caring hug so here it is *HUG*. Now go, & have a long talk with someone you trust to be a good listener, so you can get a real hug from someone in person, because you deserve that, & a whole lot more, like happiness & a good life.
So take care.
2007-02-04 16:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely because of what happened to you last summer you need to go to counseling and stuff you need help because it's a horrible situation, please talk to your parents or someone who can help you with this that your close with because it's a difficult and painful situation and you need to be able to move on with your life and be happy again... take care of yourself honey....
2007-02-04 23:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all..You did nothing wrong to influence this man's behavior.
The offender forced you to give up your independence & took advantage of your innocense. He forced you to give up that time. Dont impower him any more by wasting another moment thinking of him. He isnt worth it. Let it go and learn and grow from it. but dont be stuck on it. One step in front of the other..
2007-02-04 23:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-04 23:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting molested can change everything..honey, please promise me you'll get some counseling or at least begin keeping a journal and reflecting your thoughts. These will help make you "you" again.
2007-02-04 23:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋