my boyfriend broke up wit me 2 weeks ago on aim cuz we were in a huge fight then ignored me and was a big jerk and was talking to my best friend..they talked wen we were dating on the phone and on aim more than me and him talked..and they seem like there goin out they take pictures together and are always together and there are rumors goin around..my best friend says she wouldnt do taht to me and my ex says he loves me and wants to be with me still...but i think there is more goin on..and he is still a jerk to me but then isnt..and i know it ruff for him rite know cuz his mom has problems with her lungs and is not to good..and he makes me feel like it my fault and make me feel guily about it like i shouuld date him cuz of his mom what should i do?
2007-02-04 15:25:22 · 10 answers · asked by courtney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, any guy who doesn't have the common courtesy to break up with you to your face, but on AIM should not be worth your time.
Have some dignity girl! It isn't your fault his mother is having lung problems. He has no right to blame you and put you on a guilt trip for that. You should be sympathetic, but put your foot down when he tries to blame you for his faults.
Don't let guys like him and your suppose "best" friend walk all over you. Confront both of them at the same time. Question them.
If I were you though I wouldn't waste my time on the guy anymore, and I certaintly wouldn't let it end the relationship between me and my best friend.
He isn't worth it!
...but in the end, its all up to you on what to do.
I hope I helped as much as I could. :/
2007-02-04 15:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by gatorbabe09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should hate him. A relationship is a two-way street. People do things for each other. They don't try to hurt each other or place blame or guilt where it doesn't belong.
If he's having problems, maybe you should give him some time, but maybe you should consider looking elsewhere as well. He shouldn't have treated you that way, and at the very least, he shouldn't have continued to treat you that way after the fact. A relationship based around guilt is a relationship not built on solid ground. One little tremor will bring it all down. Be prepared to be there as a friend, but until he grows up, look elsewhere. You can do better for yourself.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-04 15:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely DON'T date him because of his mom. It's understandable that he's going through a tough time right now, but that still gives him no right to treat you the way he has. It seems like he needs to grow up, and you shouldn't have to wait around for him to be a good boyfriend just because you feel sorry for him. However, it's really important for you to be there for him as a friend. It sounds as though you don't have romantic feelings towards him anymore, so instead be a good friend and be there for him- just don't let it go anywhere else until he can prove that he's mature enough to handle a relationship. Good luck :)
2007-02-04 15:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by brittpinkie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well listen to what ur heart say abut remenber dont do something you would reget in your whole life cuz if ur saying datz there rumors going around saying that ur best friend and ur ex-boyfriend are going out I wouldnt even trust ur best friend and either ur ex-man. I mean come on there problem wouldnt tell u the truth it has to be for a reason. I would just still away from them. cuz look at me I was going out with my ex-man and what happen? almost the same thing as u so actually I know what I am telling you. Dont hurt yourself in trying to fault for anything ur ex-man say about him loving you cuz if he REALLY did he would ignored or do stupid things like what u mention about what he been doing with ur best friend. well I would datz help. if u need anything else just email me at dinierosa@yahoo.com okay
take care, and my name is Dinie! :)
2007-02-04 15:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Flaca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date him because of his mom! That is one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. He seems like a jerk. Just try to move on without him, unless you really love him.
2007-02-04 15:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
English 101. Take that class one more time.
Then get a new boyfriend and put out a lot.
2007-02-04 15:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Break it off with him no one has a right to make us feel guilty but ourselves.... and find a new best friend.....
best friends do not be better friends with your guy you are dating ....
2007-02-04 15:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave Him your Ex boyfriend
2007-02-04 15:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by ginny3282 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP... HIM... NOW!!! If he'll manipulate you like this with his mom's conditiion, he'll manipulate you MUCH worse the longer you're with him. Stay with him b/c of his mom, that's freaking LOW on his part!!
2007-02-04 15:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. It's not right blaming you for his probs.
2007-02-04 15:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋