we've kissed & stuff, but how can i make him realize that i really like him, not just for the physical stuff? i've handed out tons of hints - even told him flat out once, but the guy is dense! the only reason i've done anything with other guys is cuz i have no reason to believe he wants a real relationship with me - but he always comments on that kind of stuff to me. like 'oh, i saw you dancing with joe, why don't u just go home with him' what's his deal??? (i'm 24, so no high school answers, please) should i try one final time (with the direct 'i like u') or just give up?
2007-02-04 15:23:34 · 5 answers · asked by how empty of me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Has it occurred to you that he may be being "dense" on purpose? It's possible that he has known all along what your feelings are, but doesn't feel the same. He may not want to come out and say "no, I only like you as a friend" because he doesn't want to hurt you or the friendship. He may be commenting on you being with other guys because he hopes you will start a relationship with someone else, which would take some pressure off him.
It sounds like you've already told him your feelings over and over, but have you asked him about his? That's the only way to know for sure. Don't ask him unless you can handle a "no."
I've seen this sort of thing break up several good friendships within my circle of friends. I've also had a romantic relationship with someone who was a platonic friend for years, and eventually it came out that we both had stronger feelings and we got together. We're split up now, and no longer friends, but it did work for a while. So it can go either way.
If you're going bananas that's going to put a strain on the relationship anyway, because you won't be able to relax around him. Getting it out in the open is a risk, but it's often one worth taking. At the very least you will be able to stop wondering.
2007-02-04 15:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've learned after 18 years of marriage.....MEN DO NOT GET HINTS. it sounds like you're going to need to be honest with him about how you feel. you said you've told him before but i think you should give him another chance-tell him one more time, and yes be as direct as possible. Good Luck!
2007-02-04 23:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by fluttering_by@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to let him know once more and let him know you won't bother with him anymore if he doesn't want a real relationship, if that doesn't get it through his skull then just do as stated, don't bother with it.
2007-02-04 23:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by His_Fallen_Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea just try tell him one more time that you want to be more than friends..not just hooking up but actually a couple
and see what happens
2007-02-04 23:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by hanalei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with his resistance and snide comments, I'd say give up...
that's the sort of stuff my abusive ex-boyfriend would say to me.
2007-02-04 23:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Auntie M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋