why is the line between kids and adults being allowed to be blurred?

Question

when i was a kid i was expected to address adults with respect such as calling them Mr. Jones or whatever i was expected to shake the hand of an adult say thank you and so on. I knew to respect my elders. it seems though that as time goes on in our country we as a society are getting away from that, we are pushing towards treating children as equals, they are not they are children. we allow children to cal adults by their first name, and not shake their hand, we allow them to disobey and no one says anything. now i am not saying that every family is like this i am saying that there is a growing trend nationwide towards this. i am trying to figure out why it is that people feel that kids should not have to treat elders with respect.

Answer 1

Bring back the strap in school! Let parents give their kids a smack on the backside! Today's children have absolutely no respect. And if the parents can't discipline their kids, what happens to them? They're in detention, detox, jail, juvie hall, the streets...and these are our brilliant leaders of tomorrow...thank God I'll be dead!

Answer 2

I know what you're saying but as a parent today, it's very difficult to teach that lesson of just blanket respect for all adults to our children. Sexual predators are SO much more rampant than they were when I was a kid. I don't want my children to think that they just have to listen to whatever an adult says. We have to unfortunately raise our children with a measure of suspicion of strange adults. My children DO NOT have to listen to ANYTHING a strange adult says to them, no matter how innocuous it may seem. I am more interested in keeping them safe than in making them appear respectful to some strangers. Also, with my first child I instructed her to call the adults she did meet (introduced by me) by their last name and most of them protested. Most adults my age and a little older want to be called by their first name, sometimes (if a dance teacher or counselor) with the prefix Miss or Mr. (such as Miss Jen) but hardly anyone wants to be called by their last except schoolteachers and the elderly. That is my experience. Now, I ask before my children meet someone what they would like to be called. I agree that this country has moved away from the village way of raising children (which would be so much nicer and I would prefer) and more towards the parents being solely accountable for their child's actions in all venues (which is sometimes counter-productive) but it is the price we pay to keep our kids safe these days. I may not allow a strange adult to talk to my child but neither will she be the kid kicking and screaming on the floor or taking something she isn't supposed to because her mom is ALWAYS watching her!:)

Answer 3

Because Children should be treated as equals. Just because we are younger does not make us any less speacil and it doesn't make you better than us. My mother respects me and I respect her. My friends mother asks me to call her Down and not Mrs.K So out of respect I do. Just because we don't shake a persons hand or call them Mr. Or Mrs does not mean we do not respect them. Respect does not mean shaking peoples hands or calling them Mr. Or Mrs and it is not a 1 way streat. Yes I will addmit I get out of line sometimes and do disrepect my mother but she does disaplen me or speak with me. And did you know most of todays children are the ones taking care of there mothers and fathers? The World is changing it's time you get over that.

From: A 14 year old soon to be 15 and has been though more than you would think.

Answer 4

people today stand up for the rights's of the child. Trying to stop child abuse and labour. this is a good thing because children should not be unjustly punished.
But people take it too far by saying you can't say no to a child because it has a negatives effected.
Child lobour is when children under 10 work and never go to school. In some country children are forced into it.

Answer 5

I believe the line is blurred because way too many people who have no business having children in the first place are having them. And that involves all economic classes. Either they are too wrapped up in their careers, or too stupid, or lazy to actually do what it takes to teach their children anything constructive. I find it quite sickening to see some snot nosed kid running around acting like the whole world owes them something, when in fact, it's their parents job to teach them that they owe the world something. Respect for elders/others? They are all to busy saying "me,me,me", probably because the morons that had them want to act like a "friend" and not a "parent".

Answer 6

Things have changed. Children should also been listened to and respected as people but they should understand and appreciate the importance of experience. I do think the problem is that most household to days the parents are to busy to really educate their children. I remember having dinner the whole family but I think things like that just aren't happening anymore. We really have to be there for the youth of today.

Answer 7

Just look at the growing trend of behaviors that are acceptable now that never used to be. As a country we have become more and more demoralized. I have been care-giving for various age groups for almost 6 years. Children are our future but our elders have given us our future as we know it today. There are good kids out there, stay positive!

Answer 8

first of all, i dont agree with your comment on adults and children not being equal, because they are, but i do agree that there is a lack of respect from children to adults. my parents raised me to do the yes ma'am no sir thing, but a lot of my friends werent and it shows because theyre the ones that most often get in trouble for random things. i think it's this way because adults are afraid of their child calling CPS when they enforce the rules. its been my experience though that in minority families kids are more respectful. my mother once dared me to call CPS and told me to have fun at my foster home. i think if some parents were more assertive this wouldnt be happening.

Answer 9

I believe you and don't think of mothers and dads might desire to get all the blame. there are a number of many stuff at play. an outstanding sort of young ones get taken in by the undesirable communities and then exchange into considered one of them for starters and for some its only time to insurrection and do each little thing your mothers and dads do not choose you to do. I unquestionably have not got self assurance that each single feral teenager is a results of undesirable parenting. somewhat i be attentive to it is not for a actuality. i've got considered time and time lower back solid mothers and dads, very solid function fashions who've consistently carried out their up maximum ultimate for their childrens nonetheless ending up with "undesirable childrens". and that i recommend if it have been the mothers and dads fault how are available in some families one infant is definitely awesome and the different is horrid? i'm not asserting genetics are at play right here (whether i think of the obdurate section unquestionably is- the i will do it my way or no way), i'm only asserting it is not the mothers and dads doing and that sure human beings are to blame for their very own movements. i'm getting so bored with listening to human beings say "nicely I attacked that guy simply by fact of my undesirable formative years"... considering which you had such a crap formative years that would desire to in turn make you attempt to be a extra sensible guy or woman than whoever it grew to become into that led to you to have a rubbish time, you be attentive to? Get some treatment and end making excuses.

Answer 10

The answer is simple. All those people you called "Sir" and "Maam" when you were a child raised thier own children to be rotten little bastards. Maybe they should have spent more time raising thier kids, and less time worrying about how they were being addressed. = one final thought on this subject. if you have children i'm sure you have told them the old saying "respect is earned". why then do we expect children to respect us just because we are adults? hipocrates are respected by no one.