Me and my GF of 2 years decided we want to move in together, Now she says she doesnt know if she wants to get married. That is ok with me but I think I would rather get married. I think living together first is a good idea and I agree with it but I do want to eventually get married. what to do?
2007-02-04 15:16:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move in together and take one day at a time.
2007-02-04 15:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her decide when she is ready. Maybe she is not ready right now to get married. she wants to take things one step at a time and see how things work out living together. you don't know someone til you live with them, as the saying goes. She's moving in for a reason, she wouldnt if she didnt have some feelings for you. give it a little bit.
2007-02-04 23:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by xstraight_edge_emo_kidx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, living together first is the exact opposite of how it should be,,,you are supposed to get to know and love and respect eachother first, and then when you know you are mature enough together you are fit to be married and then you move in together...
If she is unsure about getting married then do not proceed to live with her, c'mon!!! red flags are waving right under your nose boy!!! If you really do love and respect her then give her a bit of time, don't be pressuring her and call off the united quarters idea...you best be on the same page from the start, don't expect her to play catch-up to your own ideals, communication dammit!!!
2007-02-04 23:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just not that into you. Don't push her into marriage. That's just a cause for divorce with kids and that'll suck for all of you; especially the kids.
There's lot of women out there. I know it sucks to hear that, but unfortunately it's true. Just think of it this way; imagine you're future wife. (Not your current girl, but the fantasy wife). Is she pretty? Smiles and laughs a lot? Is she a "motherly" type? What does she love about you? Does she get along with your family?
Now compare the two. How does your current girl add up? If she adds up then cool. If not, let her go. I mean, she said strait forward, "I don't know if I want to get married." I mean geez! That's pretty in-your-face don't you think?
I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but I think you don't want to face the truth that she's not ready and you are. It happened to me also. I was ready and the guy wasn't. Big deal! I moved on and found my soulmate. I must tell you how important it is not to push the other person. Not just for their sake, but for your emotional well being.
Good luck!
2007-02-04 23:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what to do?
#1 step back... take it as it comes living together is a great idea and you will truely learn alot about her that you did not know.
#2 Time... she needs time to think about getting married its not the idea but the actual thing
if i was a betting man and you guys survive each other i bet u will be engaged in a year or less
2007-02-04 23:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by nsxplus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a nice convo about how you feel. Tell her whats on your mind and don't be afraid to be honest. Women need that more than anything. Let her know that someday you would like to marry her, because you love her and want to be with her as family. Also be respectful of her feelings. Good luck.
2007-02-04 23:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by m w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in and love her now. Do everything for her to convince her that you're the single person on earth worth saying "I do". I envy you because you still have the chance to be with her. Don't waste time thinking about the future. Live your life today. Wish you happiness.
2007-02-04 23:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by PUCAI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why. You really just have to communicate cause she might have a really good reason like something in her past or with her family. then if you not ok with her decision then you need t find a irl tat wants to marry you.good luck
2007-02-04 23:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by blackglitter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her and making your feelings clear and try talking to her and see why she doesnt know if she wants to get married if shes like me she would like that you talked to her about and see her feelings and care enough to ask
2007-02-04 23:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by Broken Juggalette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shu is right. Take one day at a time. talk about it.
good luck.
2007-02-04 23:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋