Do you lose respect/interest for a girl after messing around the first time you guys hang out?

Question

It was the first time i actually went to hang out with him, and ended up giving a hand job/oral and messing around in bed. no sex, but still.. we aren't going out. but i dont usually do that at all, i've just been real stir crazy lately. but i dont want him to think thats all i will ever be is a hook up. how can i change that image he may have of me? i dont exactly want him to ask me out or anything, i just want his respect and interest in me. i dont want to be considered a 'hoe' to him. he is in my class at school so i see him everyday and we talk. i dont want him to treat me like im nothing. and the other thing is the next time we hang out i dont know if i want to go that far again. i will probably say no. but if i do say no, will he just drop me/lose interest and think im a joke?

please help out asap! sorry this is so long, i have a hard time explaining myself etc.

Answer 1

It's likely that if he didn't respect you before, then he's not going to respect you now. And if he did respect you before, he might not any longer.

It's probably going to be impossible to change the first impression that you've made, but it'd be worse carrying on doing something that you're uncomfortable with. Do what feels right to YOU and let the chips fall where they may. If he can't respect that, well, he was only after one thing anyway...