my girl friend and i have been dating for 3 years. she recently hung out with a old friend from high school, who happends to be a guy. she told me that they made out back in high school for fun. she when to the movies with him the other night. she told me after they got out of the movies the talked for a while, about an hour. they have been talking a lot lately and texting each other. today durring the super bpwl she went into her room and talked to him for 40 mins. i went to post something on her myspace page and one of her best friends asked her "how last night went, and for all the details." is there anything to be worried about? what should i do?
2007-02-04 15:03:11 · 10 answers · asked by mark j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like something is definitely developing. You should tell her how you feel. If nothing is going on and it makes you feel uncomfortable she should understand how you feel. If not you don't need her.
2007-02-04 15:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by kittymimm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried, i mean she went to the movies with him one night and talks to him for 40 min the next day in the other room, that aint normal. Also curious as to why she went to the movies with him alone, and not with u as well? And her friend askin for the details sorta sounds dodgy to me, if all they did was watch a movie and talk then theres not really any detail to give is there..
2007-02-04 23:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't trust her and from the texting and talking alot you may have some cause for concern. you need to ask her why she is hanging out with him and why she felt she needed to be in a room alone with him for 40 minutes. that's a valid question. it is a big deal expecially the past relationship with him. she may have some unresolved feelings for him. you need to find out what's going on. but do it by asking her directly. tell her you noticed she's spending alot of time and energy and investing alot in a guy she's not dating. the kind fo energy she should be putting into you. explain that she would most likely be jealous if you were doing that with an ex girlfriend and that the relationship depends on her honesty and really think about whether you can live with her answers. you have to be objective when you are looking at her answers. it wouldn't be a big deal if it had been a case of "oh its nice to see you this is my boyfriend well, gotta run" and he was gone. this is a case of her spending oodles of time with him. and THAT is the problem. and you are not WITH her spending oodles of time. he is not a mutual friend. he is her ex boyfriend she was making out with.
2007-02-04 23:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by KZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. The red flag here is the fact that she went to another room during the Super Bowl to talk to him. It appears as though she doesn't want anyone (YOU) to hear the nature of their conversation. You need to talk to her and ask her if she wants to date him or what? I do give her credit for being honest about the time the spent together, however, YOU should be her priority and it sounds like she is being insensitive and inconsiderate. Sometimes people don't want to ask a question for fear of the answer. However, whats going be is going to be. The sooner you know, the sooner, you can know where you stand. Good Luck.xoxo Zena
2007-02-04 23:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, of all anyone that is married or seeing someone seriously should not be on my space no question about that. As for her going to another room to talk to another man that should not be happening what kind of relationship do you both have. There should not be any secrets between the both of you and why are you allowing this to happen be a man and tell her to make a choice is it you or him, but she could not have both.
2007-02-04 23:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a long time. I think you have enough trust built up to talk with her candidly about how this is making you feel. You will probably know right away, if there is really something to worry about. My best advise is to approach her with grace, don't go into pissed off.
2007-02-04 23:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by jonathanzila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wasn't with you, then you definitely should be worried. "How did last night go and give me all the details!" is girlspeak for how was your date with that hot guy. Something is definitely up and if she's sneaking around, better you found out now! Good luck!!
2007-02-04 23:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her before you overreact and make a mountain over a molehill and ask her if you should be worried
2007-02-04 23:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her straight up what is she doing playing around with this other guy.
2007-02-04 23:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Gruntled Employee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about..dont jump to conclusions cuz if your wrong she will think u dont trus her and all that ask her what they did and idk maybe talk to her friends about it see if they know anything
2007-02-04 23:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋