I have raised granddaugther for 9 yrs now mother wants her back the child does not want to go she sees her mom once a month mother is in a unstable lifestyle does not do anything with the child sould I make her go live with her
2007-02-04 14:59:59 · 9 answers · asked by patty t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
her mom does nothing for 9 years and all of a sudden she wants her back? if i were raised by my grandmother for 9 years and all of a sudden my mom wanted me to move in with her, i wouldn't be so quick to go with her. if she really wants to get her back, she should spend lots of time with her first, and then maybe she can ask her if she wants to move in with her. she can't just force her, even if it is her daughter, because she's grown up with you. i think ultimately, this decision belongs to your granddaughter, because she might want to live with her real mother, or maybe she's just happy living with you. talk to your granddaughter, ask her what she wants. about the unstable lifestyle, if she does move in with her mom, make sure you check up on her a lot! babysit her too.
2007-02-04 15:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.potter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child should have a relationship with her Mom. But, if her mom's lifestyle is unstable, she should not be forced to live with her. Can she continue visitation for some more time and then look into living with her when she is older? The child needs a stable house and life.
2007-02-04 23:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The following articles are full of things you'll want to consider:
The Problems of Children :
- An Ongoing Search for Solutions
> Children Deserve to Be Wanted and Loved
- The Solution at Last!
- Help for Young People
> UN Declaration of the Rights of the Child
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_01.htm
Why Should I Get to Know My Grandparents?
- A Source of Wisdom & Advice
- A Special Bond of Love
- An Interchange
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/4/22a/article_01.htm
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2007-02-04 23:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been all your granddaughter knows for the last 9 years. If she doesn't want to live with her mother, and you know her mother is living an unstable lifestyle, how could you even consider it? My answer would have to be NO.
2007-02-04 23:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. If the child has been happy living with you, let her stay. It would be a perfect waste to take a happy child, who has lived in the same place happily for 9 years, and throw the child to an unstable person who the child does not even want to live with. Please, keep you grandchild- it is best for her.
2007-02-04 23:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by chris_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a terrible idea. I have seen how children put with parents like that grow up. I would do everything in my power to keep that child. She needs you. Unstable lifestyles are no environment for children to grow up in.
2007-02-04 23:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have custody legally, you keep it. If the mother isn't going to provide a good environment where the child can thrive...then so be it...kiddo stays with you.
If you do not have custody...tough kaboodles....either get custody or give the kiddo back because you have to. That is out of your hands.
2007-02-04 23:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, dont. Because one day she will end up back into your arms. She is an unstable mother like u said, so dont let her get hurt!
2007-02-04 23:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if you already know what you will be sending her to and you want your grandchild safe then why whould you send her to her mom.
2007-02-04 23:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by N/A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋