I've been going out with my girlfriend for two years. This weekend, she told me that after two years, she doesn't love me any longer and that her feelings for me are gone. Although we are young, I'm madly in love with her and always considered her my cliche "one" that I could be with forever. Is there anything that I can do to get her to love me again? Right now we are in an "open relationship" where we are hoping that if she experiences some time with someone else, she will realize that it was nothing like what we had during our 2 years together and that maybe she will fall in love with me all over again. Is that too much of a stretch? I don't know what to do...this is very important to me because she is someone that I want to spend my life with and I'm very uspet right now.
2007-02-04 14:51:39 · 15 answers · asked by ajacklin85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Read "The Five Love Languages".
Find out what her love language is, and start "speaking" it.
It might be one or two of
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch
Acts of Service
Gift Giving
But she will respond more positively to one more than the others. Two years is a long time. Work on it this way and I think you will sort it out...
2007-02-04 14:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Gruntled Employee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you got in too deep too fast. obviously you are making the same mistakes that so many married couples make and that's why they end in divorce. Your relationship has probably gone dull and boring to her and she has now found new and exciting things to interest her more elsewhere. You need to try to find things that will make her feel happy and wanted again yet not try to push the relationship too deep so that she thinks you are going too fast for her. Odds are you are both very young and she is probably not ready for a serious relationship yet. Just try not to show her you want to be controlling in the way the relationship is going and try to do exciting and adventurous things with her to make her want more. this way, when she is not around you, she will be thinking of the good times you are having together and then realize that she will miss you if the relationship ends
2007-02-04 15:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, bro. You can't make people love you if they don't, it's just a fact. It'll hurt like hell, but you will get over her in time and will meet someone else who loves you just as much as you love her.
Don't waste your time and energy on something that won't work out. I used to be in a relationship with someone I loved terribly. I sold myself short for the same kind of 'open relationship.' I was so in love with him that I couldn't even think of being with someone else but it was a completely different story with him! I even considered suicide... I finally dumped him after 3 years and got FAR away from him, (I lived in Malta and moved to Bali!.)
It took me 2 years to get over the pain and sense of loss, but after that I met someone who is just the most wonderful person you can imagine. I am now married (1 and a 1/2 years) and am happier than I ever was with that loser :-D
2007-02-04 15:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there!
i think u should do that thingy with letting her have a "time" w/ others. and then maybe... she will realize that she really loved you and Ur perfect for her. but if things didn't go Ur way... then let her go. loving someone is a hard thing to do because there's a lot of things we should consider. but we should show someone that we love them truly by making them happy and doing something nice for them and not the other way around. and if ever you'll end up getting hurt... don't worry! a new love will find a way to heal U!
2007-02-04 15:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by angel_yhuan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just can't make someone love you, the feeling is either there or it's not. Why waste anymore of your time on something that probably won't happen again. I totally understand what your going threw, but believe me, it's better to walk away with a clean break than to stretch it out. It will hurt for a while, but the "right" one is out there. Sorry.............
2007-02-04 14:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, the only way you ever get over someone, is when you start to fall for somebody else. I think there's just some part of us that's wants to be involved with somebody, and once you get your first girlfriend there's always somebody filling that "romantic interest" slot.
But don't go for somebody too quickly. Just give it time, get over your anger, then start flirting with girls again. Eventually you'll start seeing other possibilities, and you'll forget about your ex.
2007-02-04 15:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Arbor Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like it's over for her. When women say all those things like "I want to take a break" or "you just don't get me" or "I don't love you anymore"
What they are really saying is they want to experience other "di%ks"
You need to be casual about it, don't get all uptight and beg her to come back by any means. Just play it cool, and she will come back.
If she doesn't, the real question is this: would you rather she be happy, even if that means she is not with you?
2007-02-04 14:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time.....if you`re not meant to be, you`re not meant to be. Let a few months go by and if you still aren`t over her, try getting together with her and just be together, don`t force her to love you.
2007-02-04 14:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should spend some time apart and then she might realize that you are "the one" and if she doesnt then she is a loser and if she doesnt want to be with you then she isnt the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. because if she doesnt want you now could you imagine how your marriage would be??
2007-02-04 14:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez im sorry, but first open realtionships should be illigal cuz they are a horrible way to break trust. tell her that u care about her andwhat it is that doesnt satisfy her. btw, if u do, dont go on stereotype dates, like dinner and movies, go get creative,
2007-02-04 14:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by ImaYam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋