She never respects my property and never gives me any privacy, and always sneaks into my room and steals all of my things. Also, she always hits me when she's mad because she thinks she'll get her way. She also embarrasses me in front of my friends and thinks it's funny. She does this all of the time, and i mean, ALL OF THE TIME. I've tried everything i can think of to get her to stop but nothing's working. Help!
2007-02-04 14:43:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A lot of times, this behavior is because the younger sibling looks up to the older one and wants his/her attention. Bad attention is better than none. She probably wants to be like you and may even be jealous that you get to do things that she isn't old enough for yet. Perhaps you can set aside some time to do something fun together and then you can talk to her about what's going on. Ask her why she does it and tell her that it hurts your feelings and upsets you. Ask her if there's something you both can do to compromise so she'll stop behaving that way and have more respect for you. Maybe she just needs to have more time with you so she feels special. This is especially true if you used to spend time together until you grew into more mature things and left her behind.
You should also talk to your parents about it and ask them for suggestions. Don't approach them in a complaining manner or they'll go on the defensive. Ask them if you can talk privately and then tell them that you need their help with a problem. Explain what things you've tried in the past and ask them what else can be done. Offer any suggestions you can think of - like having your sister get involved with new hobbies or activities that separate her from you. The more mature you act, the more they will respect you and try to help.
Lastly, your sister's behavior will eventually stop. She'll outgrow it and find other things to do with her time. Best of luck.
2007-02-04 14:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going through a phase, I did it with my older brother, which trust me, was probably more embarassing for him. But anyways, best thing you can do is make sure she learns to respect you. How to do that? Easy...
Like another poster said, play with her. Give her time and such, as when we were younger, me and my brother always played together but as he got older, he never played with me -- and I know I would've been nicer if he hadn't changed so suddenly. Talk to your parents about her having her friends over or even just talk to them about how you feel you aren't being respected and see if maybe they can help. Try having a lock put on your door too. Oh and when you tlak to your parents, don't yell or scream. Go to them in a calm and reasonable fashion. They will respect and admire you for that and will be more likely to change things..
2007-02-04 23:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by xxxdarksakuraxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing that you can do apart from wait. Over time you will both change and learn to get on together. You don't say what your age difference is but now it is a high percentage of your age so she is a a very different stage of development from you. In a few years time you will be closer together in terms of development and will be much better friends.
2007-02-04 22:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be Just Like You! Imagine that! A little sister who loves and adores you and wants to have your stuff, your attention, and be in your face. What a concept! Just love her. Pay more attention to her. Let her hang out with you and create special time with her...just you and her. Reward her with more time the better she behaves. She'll respect you when you start treating her like a sister and not trying to shoo her away all the time. Enjoy her...she's your sister!
2007-02-04 22:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Luvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, you should know that she will eventually grow out of this- at that age, kids think they are the "cutest" and "funniest" thing in the world. She is doing this for attention. the best thing to do is pretend that she is not bothering you. Her main goal in doing all this is to get you mad- my brother use to do the same thing to me. Dont let her know that she is bothering you- then she should stop, and find something else to do
2007-02-04 22:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by chris_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, that's what they're there for.
2007-02-05 03:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋