Has anyone experienced this. I am afraid of labour again, and post partum depression which I suffered, I am afraid I cannot handle 2. Is this normal or am i going crazy. I have a lot of headaches and can't sleep over this. Pls some advice without sarcasm and cruelty pls. P.s I am 33 so I feel like the clock is ticking. I have a 22 month old.
2007-02-04 14:39:26 · 9 answers · asked by nechannew 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am sure that every mom goes through moments of "how in the world can I do this?" Instead of feeding your fears, make plans. Get a support system set up for during/after the baby is born, to make sure that you have time to recover before having to try to handle things alone. Make sure that your doctor is aware of your fears and your history of post-partum depression, so that you can have treatment, if you need it.
I believe that your mindset is a big aid in making it through a difficult situation. If you take control of the situation, instead of feeling that it is controlling you, your chances of coming out happy and successful are enhanced.
Good luck. I have confidence that you will do great.
2007-02-04 14:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by someone's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't all THAT old. Perhaps if you wait another year (or more) you will be readier for the hefty duties of another baby. There is absolutely NO sense in having another child before you are totally ready. Mine were 26 months apart - waaay too close. My daughters are 4 years apart, waay better!! Then each child gets to have a lot more attention from mom. When my second grandchild was due I told the elder what a great privilege and honor it was to be the 'Big Sister (Brother)'...and that they would always be the one to help the younger one. They have a great relationship. I'd say a bit longer is better! And less stress to have one out of diapers before having another. You also might have a shorter/easier labor with the second, and hopefully NO Post Partum Depression this time.
2007-02-04 14:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Gran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to be stressed. You will be fine. Talk to your Doctor about an epidural. They are awesome and you won't feel a thing. Post partum depression is easily cured with exercise, which you will get and a good antidepressent! My children were eleven months apart! Talk about scared! You will be surprised at what you can handle. It is rough, but your children will be close and your older child will actually help you with a lot! Good Luck to you!!
2007-02-04 15:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I'm 37 weeks pregnant with number FIVE and I'm scared of labor again! I can't imagine that there is a pregnant woman out there who isn't scared thinking about the fact that this baby is big and however it decides to come out isn't going to be pleasant!
You will be able to handle two, it is hard going from one to two but things will work out. My first two were 27 months apart and it all worked out. I also had post partum depression after #2 and my dr. prescribed prozac which worked wonderfully.
good luck!
2007-02-04 14:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Basil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So normal! You think you've got it bad? I am 35 weeks, havent done a single thing to start getting ready for the baby and also going through major depression because hubby and I are currently separated. I still have to finish "normal" cleaning of the house, have a ton of clothes that i need to go through for my son (20 months), need to go through the newborn clothes to wash them (they've been in the basement since #1 wore them), have to dig out the stroller, car seat, bassinet, buy my son's toddler bed and get that set up, pack the bags (eek), figure out who's going to watch my son, figure out how to get to the grocery store(without freezing my butt off cuz i don't own a car) there's almost nothing left in the house to eat...., I haven't been sleeping well since my husband left so now i don't usually go to bed till i'm ready to pass out almost, and to top it all off, mastercard just sent our account to collections (1400$). Believe me, if i can learn to look at the bright side and relax instead of feeling so pressured, I'm sure you can too!!! lol. I realized this just this weekend how much i gotta get my butt moving, and that's what I'm concentrating on now - getting organized and doing whatever needs to be done! Compared to all that, i hope you feel like you have it easy now!
2007-02-04 14:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's merely scared. He won't be able to sense the infant bypass,etc the way you do. somewhat one is aside of it is mom, and a father won't be able to fairly understand the way a lot he really does love his infant until eventually he holds them for the first time. Then all will be nicely :)
2016-11-02 08:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are stressed out about it so much don't have any more kids. I'm sure the husband would understand.
2007-02-04 14:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by person with question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't have a second child.
Try adoption instead.
2007-02-04 17:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why dont you just man up and make the decision
2007-02-04 17:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋