i need help with my 5month old son, i need advice now please?

Question

my problem is i've been spoiling my baby in everything, i do lots , idon't let him cry ,when i do i feel bad so i pick him up and play 24/7 , i even sleep with the little guy, i love him so much i can't let him cry his little heart out .ican't do anything like clean my home , have a shower , have some good sex or even talk to someone or even on the phone, my 2 oldest children were not one bit like this when they were babies i even did almost the same thing as i'm doing now but this baby boy is keeping me on my feet 24/7 and i gotta do it..... here tonite i'm asking you all to give me some good feedback on the little king i have here beside me now mmm

Answer 1

if you continue this, he's only going to act like this longer. do you want him in your bed, constantly whining and walking all over you when he's 6? nip it in the bud. it's okay to let him cry for like 10 minutes and if he's still screaming go get him. put him in his own room or if you want him in your room, put his crib in there but get him out of your bed! you need your own life, and while he does need attention, he's not a newborn anymore so you shouldn't feel bad leaving him on his own while you go shower or clean.. i think maybe you're having trouble putting him down because he's maybe your last baby? sometimes that happens

Answer 2

First off invite a girlfriend over and hand her the baby then run to the shower.

Then go buy yourself a baby bjorn. It holds the baby safely close to your chest and your hands are free to clean, talk on the phone, eat a sandwich or use the computer. I even wore my youngest on my chest when I went to the bathroom! He was a real screamer.

He might have gas, so try some gas drops just in case he's yelling because of gas.

Next, find someone to come over and watch the baby at your house for a couple hours. This is when you put in your earplugs, turn on a fan for white noise, and take big fat a nap. I did it 3 afternoons a week with my young screamer. It took about a month of naps for me to get a grip again.

Finally, have a sitter come over so you can go out to eat, get a manicure or have your hair cut. You need to get out and do at least one thing for you. And that one thing could be a quickie in a motel with your man!

There's also a device that my son loved. It's a jumper that you put in the doorway and they can bounce. I put my son in it right in my bathroom doorway so I could shower every morning. Here's what I'm talking about:http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/ref=br_1_4/602-0959315-8553448?ie=UTF8&asin=B00064MJDQ&frombrowse=1

It'll get better soon. You also have to ask yourself: is he wet? hungry? sick? tired? or does he just want to yell? It's not the end of the world for them to do some yelling while you clean house! Oh yeah, the play yard/playpen thing: plop him in that and take him with you as you clean around the house. I dragged mine all over everywhere.

remember: baby bjorn, gas drops, jumper, play yard, naps for mom!

Answer 3

well i know how that is my cousin wuz 18 when she had her baby and i was 13 and now im 14 and personally i knew more about children(not that i ever had any i love babies and been around lts of them) and so i would have him most of the time well all the time unless i wuz sleep but i would still be holding him but back 2 ur question just try letting him cry until he realizes that u are not going to get him but i tried to do it once but wasnt able to! i hope ur a tough cookie thats the only way u would be able to do that GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

You need to get some rest, girl! Because it's possible that when you get totally run down that you'll start to resent him. Why don't you have a friend who would be an excellant, upbeat and smart babysitter for you come over for a couple of hours a day to start? Then go out and pamper yourself. If you feel guilty, buy him a little something while you're out. Maybe you know other friends who could help out, too. Once you can get some freedom for yourself, you'll start liking it more and more, and you'll be SO happy to see him when you get home!

Answer 5

The baby is not keeping you on your feet 24/7. You are the adult, you are the one in charge. If you decide that you are going to hold him all the time and not let him cry then what do you expect?
You are not doing him any favors. He has to sleep in his crib. He is going to cry, let him. He does not need to be held all the time, get a playpen and use it. You are setting yourself up for alot of problems if you don't.

Answer 6

I don't think it's possible to spoil such a young baby. He really needs you now. It's not good to let them cry and it's good to give him attention and play with him. Some babies are just more demanding than others. That's a trick you know... You get the good ones first and then the more challenging ones. If the little king were born first you probably wouldn't have the other 2. Anyway, just be careful about sleeping with the baby. You don't want to roll over on him accidentally. That makes me really nervous. Good luck.

Answer 7

You aren't spoiling him, you are parenting him. However his personality is different than your other children, and of course it is. All people are different regardless of age.

You need to babywear it is the best thing for you and this particular baby. At 5 months old he can likely go into a back carrier, unless he has neck problems. Back style carriers let you have optimal use of your hands and are safer during cooking and what not. You can use a backpack style, or a simple wrap, or a mei tai. For more info on back carriers: http://www.mamatoto.org/Default.aspx?tabid=71

For more info on why your baby is special, and NEEDS your attention more than your other babies:
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Answer 8

It sounds to me like your a great mom!
I have a 2 yr. old lil' boy. He was colic until he was 4 mos. old. I used to hold him constantly too but @ 5 mos. he was all about playing with his toys. Try to put him in his crib when he falls asleep. Maybe he's having gas pains or something) I would take him in too see his pediatrician & ask him for advice too. Can your other children play with him? That might give you a little break anyway. Good luck.

Answer 9

Sounds like my little prince too. He is now 4 and still comes in to sleep with me after his daddy leaves for work. I did all the things that you listed in your question, that you are doing with your son. We are attached at the hip. He will eventually sleep alone, which my son does for most of the night. But I love having him near me. Its normal mother son bonding I think. At least, from my own experience I don't see anything wrong with it. We have the best relationship ever. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Answer 10

Our doctors told us you can't spoil a baby at that age. However, you should encourage him to play on his own- we got a Bebe pod chair, and our son at that age loved to sit in it and play with his toys. I bring him to each room I'm in while cleaning. This helps me get things done. You should eventually try to start weaning him to sleep on his own. In his own bed. We had to rock our son to sleep, then lay him down in the crib. Then it got to a point where we could lay him down while sleepy, but still awake.... however, Christmas time and holidays messed that up a bit, being away from our home, so we had to rock him to sleep again. Then he started throwing fits (at 15 months) in his crib- not sure if it was the bars or what... and he fell out a couple of times... so I decided it was time for a regular bed (that sits on the floor)... we now have to lay with him until he falls asleep in it (since we just did the change)... but I hope soon to gradually get him to sleep without me laying next to him.

It's good you bond with your son and play with him. but remember to try to let him play on his own. Or you will have one clingy baby! I noticed (because I too don't like to let our son cry at all...) that he truly did need something when he cried, teething, hungry, diaper change, tylenol for the teething, mylicon for gas, etc.... he cried for a reason every time, not to get me to hold him- and sometimes maybe it was, but they need you - crying is their way of telling you something is wrong. But by 12 months is when the doctors said they can start to be spoiled.

Good luck, you sound like a good parent. Just try not to overdo it... when you know you can put your son down without a fuss, do it! Let him explore! :)