I am a senior ing high school. My family lives in a very small apartment. I rank 37th in a class of 740 people. I hide the fact where I live from everyone, including my boyfriend of 6 months. I know I shouldnt be ashamed, but everyone in my honor classes are rich and live in beautiful houses. We are immigrants and my parents are in their 50s, working in blue collar job; I am the only daughter. Before, the plan was I go to a local college so we can buy a house. Now my mom says my family cannot afford the taxes, and blah blah, but...my dad made $35k a year. So I want to go to a state university to get away, to live in a dorm; if I stay, we would still live in the small appartment with just 1 bathroom. Honestly, I want to stay, go to the local college, see boyfriend ...but I can't! Why cant my parents just buy a house so I can stay? I cried so many times last month. And i already talk to dem and cry in front of them...I dont want to force them, but I really need them to buy a house
2007-02-04 13:48:58 · 9 answers · asked by yqnlc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
u should never be a shamed of where u live and what u have. ur parents are doing what is best for them. why should they have to buy a home just for u to stay a couple more years. these people maybe rich which most are in debt and you don't even know that. maybe your parents want u to go out in the real world and just see how hard things really is. not everyone was born into money. i came from a middle class family andwe lived in a nice house. when i got married i had my fair share of being poor. it's not fun and we did it with out any help, but i appreciate the stuff i do have. im middle class again. u need to learn it's not all about u. go live in a dorm and become a big girl. instead of thinking what is best for um instead of ur parents.
2007-02-04 13:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by wishstar28 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, get some scholarships, student loans and grants and move on campus. Choose an in-state, local university (so you won't have to pay those ridiculous out of state fees) that has dorms and ask your high school advisor/counselor if she/he can guide you in the direction of filling out your financial aid forms. Your state may even have scholarships just because of your income, also your dad's job may offer scholarships, your church, and because you're an immigrant, good Lord!- I promise there are loads of scholarships just waiting to be given to you. You may not even have to take out a loan. I used to be an advisor at two local universities. Finally, what are you ashamed of? Pulling yourself up by the bootstraps? Having a hard working family who taught their daughter so well that she has a higher ranking than some native born Americans? Get your priorities straight, go to college and see what you can do to help your honorable parents buy their dream house. It's time to grow up and realize that their sacrifice will allow you to have more than they ever will. I wish you continued success and congratulations on your ranking. Have fun because this time in your life will never come around again...congratulations again!!!
2007-02-04 22:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people years ago had this same problem as you.See I am in my 50's and always lived here. It is very hard on you with your normal pains of growing up b/c your parents really can't relate enuff to be open to u.But if you have citizen ship soc. sec.# all that u can apply for college scholarships and grants to pay for college.There are several that are for families of lesser incomes. I know your parents have taught you to be proud of who you are,and you should be! My grand kids are in your situation too.I am not happy about their 2 parents being apart and not working for the betterment of the kids,but they are honor students also.So many people here you do still have chances keep your head up high.Your parents could look into manufactured homes costing less so they can afford taxes.Even going to a local college pt you may afford to rent your own place.Or share with another person.To hell over a boy take care of you.there are a million boys in ur future. I will pray for you!
2007-02-04 22:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this is to hear, this is your problem not your parents. If you want something different you must provide it. Houses are sooo expensive, believe me, they want one but just can't do it right now. 35k isn't enough to afford a house in most places.
Be grateful you're parents came here or you would know the real meaning of suffering. No matter what, you have your life they have theirs. you don't have a right to shame them and some kids live in a car or a shelter.
Your rich peers should not be so proud as they didn't earn their house. Chances are their parents came from money so their start was easier.
2007-02-04 21:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Dawnmarie K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know what, you are being ridiculously selfish. Your parents are struggling to get by, $35k is NOT a lot of money, especially if you have a family. Now you are crying and begging them to buy a house that they have told you they cannot afford so that you can bring your boyfriend and friends over?? Or not be embarassed? You have got to be kidding me. Go to college, get a part time job and HELP your parents pay for a house if it is that important to you. Give me a break.
2007-02-04 21:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by KGirl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I understand where you're coming from but do you really understand your parents financial situation?? Obviously not. I'm sure that if they could buy a house, they certinly would. I'm sure that it kills them to see you so unhappy about this but it's obvious that they can't buy a house at the moment.
I hate to tell you this but you need to suck it up. Never be ashamed of where you come from! Look at what you've accomplished...what your parents have accomplished!
YOu're on the honour roll, ranking 37th and all those other kids probably had tutors and special schools that they went to to get to where they are! You?? YOU did this YOURSELF! With the help of those parents who wish to give you everything that your little heart desires but know that it's impossible for the moment. I say, you need to give them a break. They're doing the best they can with what they have and you need to appreciate that. You could be so much worse off. Deal with it.
2007-02-04 22:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Patience. You don't have to be ashamed in the first place. There's nothing wrong, really, with living in a small apartment. If your friends are really your friends, then where you live shouldn't be a factor that'll affect your relationship. A new house doesn't necessarily equate to happiness, so I don't think you should keep pushing for it. You can learn to adapt, and get used to things, right?
Do bear in mind your parents' feelings, and all the hard work they've done for you so far. I hope things wirk out for you.
2007-02-04 21:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by kawaiisuzakuwarrior 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you might qualify for scholarships and or Pell grants--have you applied for any of them? Maybe you will just have to accept that your parents can't afford to buy a house and try to do as much as you can for yourself. I'm sure your parents are trying to do the best that they can for both you and your family.
2007-02-04 21:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by valips 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
strippers make big money
2007-02-04 22:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋