ok so if you are engaged but there is a person you like at work-how would you handle being around them
2007-02-04 13:43:20 · 34 answers · asked by amanda 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
decide which one you want more...
2007-02-04 13:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by dr b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok people are getting way into the name calling. Look hun many married and engaged people sometimes look at other people n all of you that say you dont are lying.. My only concern here is your asking us what should you do around the office crush.... If you need to ask us then I do agree you are not ready for marriage. Thinking someone is cute is fine but if you take the ring your taken lady.. you cant have your cake and eat it to. I'm not saying dump your honey or quit your job but seriously think if you really want to get married or if your still wanting to "tame your wild oats" so to speak. If its the ladder then let your fiancee know that your just not ready for a commitment at this time its not the end of the world if you seriously arent ready for the commitment.
Also office romances are tough if you decide to go that way.. do you really want everyone in your business.. if it doesnt work out do you really want to see this guy everyday.
2007-02-04 13:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by ki4ki_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged and you have feelings for someone else then you need to seriously rethink your engagement. If you are having trouble guarding your heart from other people before you are married then you are going to have a problem with it after you are married. It is only fair to let the person you are engaged to know that you are not emotionally ready to be engaged. Marriage is hard, hard, hard work and if you are not 100% committed to it you will end up making both you and your spouse miserable.
2007-02-04 13:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are if you are having this much difficulty being around this person at work, that the person you are engaged to is not the one for you. It is perfectly normal to be attracted to other people even when in a relationship or engaged or married...after all we are human. However, if your thoughts get you to a point where they interfere with your day to day life and you find yourself distracted and lusting after this person...you need to really take a close look at the relationship you are in to determine if it is the right one for you. Until you do so, I would try to separate myself from this other attraction at work and certainly try to stop thinking about him so much if that is the case. Good luck!
2007-02-04 13:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by chick33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're engaged and still liking someone else you work with, you're not being fair to your fiance. Once you say "yes" and get a ring, you're off limits, so quit thinking about it. That person is just another co-worker that you may come in contact with at work, but you do not treat them any different than anyone else. Cordial, but nothing more. If you find yourself flirting or wanting to talk to them because you're attracted to them, then you need to break your engagement because you aren't done dating around.
2007-02-04 13:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One presumes that the person at work already knows that You are engaged? Ask Yourself this question, "If I am engaged, then why am I looking around already"? You may want to ask the advice of this person at work. Just a friendly enquiry, that's all.
2007-02-04 13:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking of someone else you have no reason being engaged. Seriously do yourself and your fiance a favor and call off the engagement for long enough to find out if you're really ready for a committment.
2007-02-04 13:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you are engaged and you are looking at other men. I would really take a moment to think if you are ready for marriage or just having cold feet.
When you are really in love, your eyes may look but don't feel for other men.
2nd:
I would DEFINITLY not get involved with a co-worker. Don't try romance where you work. It can get sticky.
Plus -is it a crush or do you want more. Really think hard before jumping into a marriage if you are already looking elsewhere.
2007-02-04 13:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on which one you like better. If you like the one at work better, break up with your engaged person. If you like the one your engaged to more keep your engaged one.
2007-02-04 17:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for other people after being engaged, I would break up with your fiance, because, these could be signs of early cheating. I dont think its right to like someone when your engaged. You shouldnt even have other feelings for anyone besides your future husband.
2007-02-04 13:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're engaged and there is a person you like at work, you need to reconsider being engaged.
2007-02-04 13:46:27 · answer #11 · answered by Legally Blonde 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋