My fiance and I are planning on getting married in 2008 in Jamaica. We have extended the offer for all our friends and family to come but realize that many people will not be able to come. We plan on having a celebration once we return, maybe a month later. I know it is customary to register at places for traditional weddings and receptions. I was just wondering if it would be tacky if we did register at some places. If anyone has any advice please let me know.
PS - I also posted another question concerning my destination wedding plans and received a very rude response. I know people may not agree with my decision to have a destination wedding and stuff but if you dont agree just please dont be rude about it!
2007-02-04 13:36:23 · 11 answers · asked by jesserf161616 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's fine for you to register as long as you do not include the gift registry in your invitations. You should not expect gifts from anyone not invited to the wedding, and by wedding I mean the ceremony, but some family and friends may want to give a gift. If they want to know where you're registered they will ask or find out on their own. Have a wonderful trip.
2007-02-04 13:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone. Register! You may not recieve as many gifts because of the destination wedding but gifts are not the reason to get married obviously! If someone wants to give you a gift from their heart for your new home...wonderful...if not, that's okay too. Absolutely do not let others know of your gift registry by sending it with invitations. It is best to allow people to ask you if you are registered or leave it up to family and friends to let guests know by word of mouth.
As far as your destination wedding...I'm not sure the question you asked but they are becoming more and more popular these days. I myself always dreamed of a big church wedding but now am leaning towards my first wedding taking place as a destination wedding, being that the person I will probably end up marrying has been married before and is older than me. I think they are wonderful ideas. Just make sure you stay in a seperate hotel than your guests after the wedding so you have privacy on your wedding night. If you don't mind staying with everyone then don't worry about it. CONGRATULATIONS!
2007-02-04 15:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can register! It doesn't really matter where you get married. I would start a small registry a month or two before your wedding (or a month or two before your shower if you will be having one). Trust me, people will not bring a toaster or waffle iron to Jamaica as your gift. You will either get cash or people might send a gift before/after your wedding. You might not get any gifts at all until you have the "celebration" when you get home anyway. The important part is not to include any registry info in an invitation, and not to have a shower after you are already married. Other than that..you will be fine! Congrats!
2007-02-04 14:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead, and register....why not? I think the idea of a registry is more or less a "wish list" that everyone can see, and if someone wants to give you a gift, they might as well get you something you really want or need.
I know several people that have done just what you are doing.....destination wedding and celebration later on. I think it is great.....those that are able to attend the wedding will, and the others that can not, but still want to help you celebrate will still be able to do that....even if it isn't on the actual wedding day.
Congrats...and get started on that registry!
2007-02-04 14:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by deerogre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely register! You never know who will want to give the new bride and groom a gift, even if they aren't able to come to Jamaica to attend the ceremony! Some people may even send a gift as a way to say "congrats" with a card and small gift to let you know they will not be able to attend. That would be similar to getting a response card back with a check in the envelope!
You may also want to keep in mind that the registry will come in helpful if your family or friends decide to throw a shower for you!!
And I know that for my wedding it has been helpful to be able to pick out everything that we wanted and put it on the registry, and today whenever we need to see what else we want to make our house exactly the way we want it, we just have to look at our registry that we made! Use it as a tool to help you make your house a home!! Good luck and congrats!
2007-02-04 14:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by krystiinkay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
skip it. You can have your mother say something like since you had a private destination wedding you're asking for no gifts. But yes, be prepared for well-wishers to bring a small something. You should never put registry information on your invite - even to a casual picnic type welcome home... it's always considered in bad taste because it's looked at as hinting for gifts. I'm in favor of your skip it and if they want to bring a gift, let them.
2016-05-24 09:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shivani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, register! Not everyone will be able to attend and will want to help you start your home anyhow. A dance when you return is a great way to include the people who were unable to travel. Have fun in Jamaica and know that the people who are rude to you are just jealous that they don't get to go!
2007-02-04 16:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married overseas and had a wedding party with no gift registry (as we thought it rude)
I suggest when you send out invitations for your home celebration, you inform guests there is a registry available. Don't get stuck with gifts you so don't want.
Besides you're spending money on both functions, so why not go for it.
2007-02-05 02:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a new way to register. Its a honeymoon registery. You have your guest sign up to buy you things ie. upgrade to honeymoon suite, 1 hour spa treatment, candle light dinner, breakfast in bed, ect. You sign up for free and pick what you would like on your registry. Your guest can easily go to your website and purchase the items you listed. The money they have paid goes directly to you in a pay pal account so you can use it. You can check it out at www.ttgtrips.com and go to "extras" or click on the available link. You can also plan your wedding there too. Check it out, it's free.
2007-02-04 14:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by lv2bmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T THINK IT IS TACKY, BUT I MEAN IF YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR A WHILE AND OR YOU LIVE TO GETHER I WOULD SAY JUST BE MINDFUL OF WHAT YOU REGISTER FOR. I MEAN IF PEOPLE DON'T WANNA BUY THE THINGS THEY WON'T.
2007-02-04 13:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Candace C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋