that much confidence but than he also tells me he likes talking to this girl a lot. Should I be upset or jealous?
2007-02-04 13:33:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see how you could be both upset AND jealous. I think you need to talk to him about about it. Find out what it is of her strength that he admires and finds lacking in you. Try and keep an open mind; however, while it is good to change as a person, don't forget what it is about yourself that brought you both together.
2007-02-04 13:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be upset or jealous unless you hv a very strong reason or proof. Some men jus dont think before they talk! They can say insensitive things, or bring other girls in the picture, when it's not needed. Evaluate carefully, based on how he is as a person, on your past history together, and whether u r reading too much into it? Maybe his main focus was to encourage u to become stronger in some way. There is nothing wrong in a partner suggesting for us to grow in some way. Don't we suggest changes to our partners? It's another thing if u don't feel u need it. Then u can let him know honestly that u think u r fine the way u r. But if u feel he is right in some way, then u dont hv to argue with him.
I don't hv enough information but I basically just wanted to share, that just by him taking another girls name, or by suggesting u to become stronger, does not by itself mean that your relationship is in trouble. Let him know gently n seriously that u felt hurt by the comparison, and it wasn't thoughtful.
2007-02-04 13:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend either doesn't care for you like he should, or this other girl is a very good friend that he respects. Ask him about it, in a polite way. Don't accuse him of liking the other girl more than you until you know. Relationships are built on trust, so if you can't trust him to tell you the truth when you ask him, maybe he isn't the right one for you.
2007-02-04 15:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jose Santana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should like you the way you are. He may be right that you should have more confidence but he shouldn't be comparing you to others girls like that. He should realize that confidence just doesn't come out of nowhere and that it may take youa while to acquire it. As for the other girl I'd ask him about her. It's not bad that he talks to her, but if he's comparing you to her then you have a reason to be suspicious.
2007-02-04 13:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be upset. You're in a relationship and there is absolutely no reason that he should be comparing you to any other woman. Tell him you dont appreciate him comparing you two and that if he doesnt like you the way you are then ask why hes even with you. Jeez I hate men like that! Good luck honey
2007-02-04 13:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men have alot of friends who are women. This does not mean they want to sleep with them. High school guys however, typically don't have chick friends unless they are interested in them in some form. Either way, the majority of men want a woman who is confident. Not a *****, but one who knows she is worth something valuable. He prob likes talking to her for this reason. He sounds like he cares about you, and just wishes you were more confident because he cares. You can't change who you are for someone else, but sometimes it does take another person pointing out our own flaws for us to realize what we need to change about ourselves, for ourselves.
2007-02-04 13:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by HotMommaM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im realy sorry to say this but im thinking he wants to leave you for the other girl... he is trying to tell you if you dont become just like her he wont have you! if i were you id tell him that you like who you are and that if he doesnt like it he should find someone else. he told you he likes to talk to her cuz he wants you to get jealous and totally just change for him! if he really loved you he wouldnt be playing these mind games with you! but i think you should sit down with him and have a serious talk about this if you really want him... but honestly it doesnt sound like you two will last cuz he's an immature jerk!
2007-02-04 13:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by my spill canvas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be upset or jealous. You should break up with this guy. He's a jerk, and he doesn't like you that much. Dump him before he dumps you, because from what you said it sounds like he's going to pretty soon.
2007-02-04 13:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF i were you i would be upset. There is no way that he should be talking to other girls knowing that all girls get jealous!! No matter what!
2007-02-04 13:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly Belly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 02:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋