I have a family member that has a very bad drug addiction. Rehab has not helped. She just found out that she is pregnant and I am afraid she won't be able to stop what she is doing. What can I do to help her?
2007-02-04 13:19:29 · 11 answers · asked by Jill 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't do anything.
They are the ones who will have to do it. You can not make them and they will only do something when or if they choose to
2007-02-04 13:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jill, the very first thing you should do is pray for her and the life inside of her. The only way to assure the a good birth first is to force her back into rehab. You may want to get in contact with other mothers who was addicted to drug while they were pregnant and what happen after the baby was born.
Have them to share their Horror stories with her. Maybe she would take the innocent child inside of her into consideration and freely enter into the rehab. Also involve your pastor and mostly the people who she would consider to listen to, including asking people from the rehab to come to your house and talk to her.
God Bless and good luck..
2007-02-04 22:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can help by talking to her but i can tell you i have worked in a rehab center for several years, you can talk to your blue in the face she will more than likely keep using until she hits rock bottom or worse, (dies). No addict will quit until they know they have a problem and are ready to quit for themselves, no baby or not is going to help this issue, the drugs have the hold on her more than likely. When the baby is born addicted someone will step in to take the baby and maybe then (hopefully she will wake up. MAYBE... ) Not likely.. But keep praying thats the only thing u can do.
2007-02-05 08:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by DITZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is be there for her. Remind her that she does have another person growing inside her to think about. But if she can't stop then maybe she should think twice about having the baby. She doesn't want a baby that is addicted to drugs when it is born. Its not fair to the baby. I know someone that did that & it was very sad, to see a baby going through withdrawls. Talk to her about it. Be there to support her if she decides to quit for the baby. Take care
2007-02-04 21:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but the only thing you can do is make sure she knows that if and when she decides to get straight, you will be there for her. It is hard for us, as family, to understand that we can't make someone get clean and sober. That has to be the choice of the addict and no-one can make them do it. They have to hit their own personal rock bottom. I speak from two angles here, I have a 19 year old daughter who is a heroine addict and I am a recovering alcoholic of 15 years. I wish you, and her, the very best.
2007-02-04 21:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by storytllr1961 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rehab only works when the person with the addiction really
wants to be free, Ask her if she will have mercy on the life she carries, even if she is not willing to have mercy on her own life.
Then I would encourage her to seek help for her on born child
and allow her to knew her value as a healthy mom.
2007-02-04 21:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if rehab didnt help.. nothing will
trust me .. my sister is a crack addcit. her friend from the street was pregnant and she kept doing the drugs and she lost the baby.. its not easy. trust me
tell her to get away from it.. move to a different town were she dosent know the place and dosent know anybody.. (he drug friends being around and her knowing were they are wont help) explain to her that she needs to stop this for the baby.. its not just about her anymore, she needs to think of this baby also.
sit her down explain to her..
if she dosent stop there isent much you can do.. alot of people will try and tell you alot of stuff.. and alot of stuff wont help.. we have triend everything in this world for my sister.. and it just made things worse..
just try and talk to her and see if it helps any..
with my sister my baby is the only thing keeping her clean.. and i am so happy.. also i threatned her she will not be a part of my babys life if she does it again.. and i mean it too i can hold a grudge..
if you need to threaten to take her baby is she does end up not losing it..
2007-02-04 21:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Angeleah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is she addicted to? it totally depends. if it is something opiate based,(heroin,painpills,etc) she could get on suboxone or subutex, even methadone which would be much less harmful to the baby, if she has an alcohol problem, she needs to figure out how to quit, or cut way down if quitting is not an option, if she is on cocaine or crack, she needs to quit, pot, just quit. It really depends what she is addicted to, some substances are just worse than others and they all need to be dealt with differently. Good luck.
2007-02-04 21:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How nice that you care--but SHOCKER--why waste your time---seems as if this family member was OK to lay down and have sex at least once--what are you??and why care---where is the guy that knocked her up---give her the door and wish her tjhe best if luck---that family love thing is bull---t and you need to find something to do with your life. Addicts are all needy types that prey and suck the life out of family and society---because they get away with it. ...oooh poor baby-----put her out and wash your hands of it. If you don't ---stop looking for suggestions here--no one cares about addicts--
2007-02-04 21:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she has to help herself...
if she doesnt want to, there is Nothing you can do to stop her... find some websites online and show the affects to a baby, while the mother is doing drugs and alcohol...
2007-02-04 21:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough love tell her to abort the child it will have serious illness through her life and will be a drug baby if she concieved or ghives birth while on the junk! is she under age?
2007-02-04 21:26:21 · answer #11 · answered by emalie_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋