Sometimes it seems like my man and I are drifting apart, we live together now, and we still have a healthy sex life, but communication isn't always there, what signs do I need to look for??
2007-02-04 13:16:06 · 13 answers · asked by Kim S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, your looking for something that we can't give you an answer to because of lack of information, and for the mere fact that you know your man better than anyone. Therefore, we can't tell you if your losing him or not.
But we can all agree that the communication between the both of you is not the same. The only way to find out if something is wrong is by commnicating. Try talking to him, try being honest with him...but don't expect him to open up right away because he could be in a shell, but don't give up. Eventually he'll let you know what's on his mind. Try not to think the worst, such as you losing him, he could be stressed or he could feel that he's losing you...but the only way to find out is to talk to him...
Good Luck!!
2007-02-04 13:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by chyna0069 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This advice comes from my own experiences. One reason could be that the romance and the challenge to "get" you is gone or suffereing. before he probably though about your tastes on where to take you and did things to let you know that he was thinking about you. Now that you live together you life has turned more in a married living situation of "what are we going to cook for dinner." or getting the laundry done. The time that you spend together going out and having a good time and getting to know each other is gone! You spend homemaking time not romance time. Sex in the begining feels like this is your romance time, but face it women see sex differently then men, the connection is more emotional for women. Your communication has changed to everyday talk because you live together and not the deep emotional talk about your feelings about things and fun things that you probably talked about on a more date like night. he is also not having to work harder to keep you. What he has is the best set up for him not to be committed in the long run for marriage, sex when he wants, having someone there to take care of him, providing for him with homely needs. Why would he? Your relationship is in between marriage and dating this is gray area. You need to talk and revisit your expectations of each other, make time to just spend talking about other things like your dreams, things not related to whether or not you should pick eggs up on the way home. I am not against living together before marriage but if you are going to try it then you need to really communicate and keep some of the lifestyle that you shared when you were just dating. He can still call you and ask you out one night! Set up a date night, make a rule during the week that the tv and computer is off during the week.
2007-02-04 13:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by dfische7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to have a healthy relationship is to communicate. You need to let him know how you feel, Because men have a hard time figuring out that something is wrong.. Take care
2007-02-04 13:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask him how you can make your lives more interesting together.and men like a little attention that has nothing to do with sex...bake him a cake, leave a love note pinned to his coat,name your pillow after him and carry it around the house!
It really is the simple things you know! Please don't look for signs
make your intentions very readable. and tell him how much you love his cute hiney. :) If he does not respond to this he might have something on his mind that is worrying him.Rub his feet and tell him you are worried about HIM.(not "us") These all all the things that work for me. Good luck!! and get involved.
2007-02-04 13:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me and read the book "He's just not that into you" it helped me and I also believe that it will help you..... what can I say try and talk to him tell him how you feel... if the communication is lost what will be next you have to speak up and let him know!!!
2007-02-04 13:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for signs and start talking to each other.
2007-02-04 13:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no signs that any of us can tell you of. but you may be basing your love on sex instead of eachothers hearts. all you can do is talk to him.
2007-02-04 13:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by the sulky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something maybe bothering him at work or else where, it's not another woman so get him to relax and talk to him.
2007-02-04 13:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, does he say hi 2 u when he just comes home from work?! or any of that stuff, wat u should do is sit down with him and ask him if there isn't anything he wants 2 come clean about.
2007-02-04 13:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by taylor d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him
2007-02-04 13:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋