I never did get counseling..
I think about it everyday
I was 9 years old when he done this..and now i am 15 almost 16
He shot his self in the head and I turned to find ...
well you don't need details..
what could be wrong with me...
Should I go and get counseling
I am obsessed with helping people and I can't help but be a good friend....
2007-02-04 12:46:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Of course there is something wrong with you - its grief - no one experiences this sort of thing without lasting emotional effects. So, in a way, its normal to have something wrong after an experience like yours. Many people feel like they should have been able to do something to have stopped the suicide,which makes it very difficult to quit thinking about it - this part is guilt.
You may benefit a lot from counseling, or at least learning how to keep the memories from becoming overwhelming. Its amazing how much talking to a professional can help you sort out your thoughts.
If you want to try counseling yourself, you can write a letter to your brother and tell him what you saw, how it made you feel, and the problems it has caused you. If you do this, you may discover things about yourself that you never knew. People usually try to stop thinking about terrible events, and never get a chance to look at the whole picture. This approach can unlock a lot of feelings. It is also useful if you go to a counselor, you could let them read the letter, or if it is too personal, you could take it with you to help you remember the things you want to talk about.
2007-02-04 13:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by formerly_bob 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get counseling but better yet also surround yourself with a good and strong support system of friends and family. Nothing can be more traumatic of losing a loved one, let alone seeing them do it. As string as you sound like you are...by the fact that you posted your question alone...it sounds like you are ready to reach out for help. Life is far too short to go at it alone...get help, find a good counselor and start releasing all of what you have held in for some many years. Nothing will ever make you forget what happened, but you can certainly;y get to a point where you learn how to cope and deal with it better. Good luck!
2007-02-04 13:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by chick33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ally, having someone you're close to die is very traumatic, seeing it happen adds to that trauma 2 fold. I lost my son son by suicide in July 2005, but I didn't see him do it. The incredible pain and guilt that a survivor is left with is unimaginable.The death by suicide leaves more guilt and other bad feelings , more so then a natural death. Your parents lost there son and unfortunately you got lost in the wake of all this. You do need to go to counseling. Because you were so young, you are probably just now, ready to deal with it, on some other level then you have been. You need professional help in order to do this.
Talk to your parents and tell them you are ready to see a therapist.
2007-02-04 15:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Oboviously, you need counseling. You were 9? I am so sorry. There's nothing more wrong with you than there is with the rest of us. You just had the misfortune to be witness to the death of a loved one. Get yourself some help. Good luck.
2007-02-04 13:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definitely say get counseling, its a traumatic thing that happened and its something you need to talk about. helping people is a good thing, so it sounds like you weren't negatively affected, but being "obsessed" with helping people sounds like you might be over doing it, to compensate for the loss of your brother...anybody in the world who saw their brother commit suicide at 9yrs old would need counseling so its probably something you should do..
2007-02-04 12:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by bella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you definitely need to go to counseling. And look in your phone book to see if you have "Hospice Volunteers" in your area, if so, give them a call and explain your situation. They have all kinds of services available. I am SO sorry that you had to witness his death. You are obsessed with helping people now, to fill in the void you had when you couldn't help him. There's nothing wrong with you, my dear. You just need some help in getting out your feelings that are bottled up. I wish you the best of luck. Please call..........
2007-02-04 12:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling. If you don't, how can you be a good friend to other people if you're obsessed over this?
You'll never forget it, but with counseling, at least it won't dominate your life.
Good luck with your life.
2007-02-04 12:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is easily the worst question I've seen here. I am so truly sorry that you witnessed a loved one's suicide; especially as your brother was so young!!!!!!!!!!! :(
You should definitely seek counseling of some sort. What do your parents and other relatives and friends say about it? You have to talk to someone.
2007-02-04 12:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by midjrsy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should see a 'counselor' about this. I can't imagine having one child commit suicide in front of another child and NOT seeing that the child who 'saw' it didn't see a counselor. Of course you are 'obsessed' with helping people and 'can't help but be a good friend' ... because you are 'terrified' inside (whether you 'feel it' or not) that someone else will hurt themselves, and you 'wonder' whether it is 'your fault for not being good enough' that your brother killed himself.
2007-02-04 12:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kris L 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some help kid before u try to help anybody else u have to know where u stand with ur own personal issues sorry to hear about ur brother he was probably screaming for help and no one heard him. Don't let that become ur fate, at least u r asking if u should or shouldn't and again I say u should. God bless and good luck.
2007-02-04 12:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋