I need help making her get help?

Question

My girlfriend is depressed all the time. I am certain she has depression. I'm trying to help her, and I refuse to give up on her but she won't go for help. She believes that there is nothing that can help her, but knows there are ways out there. Is there any advice on how to make her get help without interfering with her private space?

Answer 1

There is no way you can make a person get help if they don;t want it. Your girlfriend is using the excuse that there is nothing to help her as a way to avoid addressing her problems. Your best bet is to ask when she had her last physical exam and if it almost a year ago then remind her that she is due for her yearly physical and offer to come to the waiting room when she goes in for it.

Answer 2

How to help a depressed person
From Nancy Schimelpfening,
Your Guide to Depression.
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When someone we love feels depressed, it is only natural to want to help. Here are steps you can take.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Varies
Here's How:
Educate yourself about their illness and it's treatment.
Read everything you can about how it feels to be depressed. It will help to understand why your loved one behaves the way they do.
Caring for a depressed person can be very draining. Take some time out to care for your own needs.
Give them support and love when they need it.It's okay to feel angry, upset or frustrated. Develop a support system for yourself so you have someone to vent your feelings to.
Remember that depressed people can be angry, withdrawn or sad. They may not feel like having sex or doing the things they used to enjoy. This does not mean that they don't love you anymore. It's the illness talking.
Normal daily activities like housework, grocery shopping or paying bills can seem overwhelming to a depressed person. You may need to help them out for awhile just as you would if they had any other illness.
Remind your loved one of the importance of continuing their treatments. Help them with remembering medications and appointments.
One of the most important things depression robs one of is hope. Give them hope in whatever form you can.
Let them know that although you are angry with their illness, you will always love them.
Tips:
The most important thing you can do is just to be there and give them your support.
It is not your fault that they are depressed. Depression is an illness.
If your loved one becomes suicidal, do not hesitate to contact their physician for assistance.

Answer 3

You can't force her. The only thing you can do, if she refuses to get help, is to leave the relationship. I don't mean a threat, you actually have to leave. Why would you continue to stay with someone who won't help herself?? How would she know whether there is anything that could help her if she's never been SEEN? Ridiculous on her part. She is wallowing in her misery. Trying to make people feel sorry for her. It's attention seeking behavior. Don't put up with it. Tell her, "Since you are so depressed and won't get help, I have to break up with you. I hope one day you get some help." And that's it.

Answer 4

You could try bargaining with her. Tell her if she goes to talk to someone, just to see if she would want help, no commitment necessary then you will do something for her, whatever it is she may want.

Answer 5

there....are people who are forced into getting help. but anyway, for your girl friend......you kinda might have to take the shelfish route and explain how her mood affects everything around her and then show her that they way she is now....isn't forever and that it...almost isn't normal sorta.

Answer 6

All you can do is to encourage and support her.

Answer 7

show her ur sack

Answer 8

all you can do is encourage her.