they give a 13 year old ONLY 30 minutes on the computer a day, cant have cell unless they pay for it, have to ask to get on the computer, cant have a myspace, and cant have a parental advisory CD?
2007-02-04 12:39:51 · 50 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think those parents are wonderful and caring to set boundaries that keep a thirteen year old safe and allow them to enjoy their childhood without being pressured by all the outside superficial influences. I agree with all of this totally and my children have the exact same rules. I have not had any problems with any of them. They have grown into responsible adults who have healthy self esteems and boundaries.
2007-02-04 12:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say your parents are EXCELLENT parents! A thirteen year-old DOESN'T need a cell phone and shouldn't have a myspace account. Why would you need a CD with parental advisory labels anyway?
It is never too early to learn that you have to pay for conveniences in life. I agree with your parents that if you want something you have to earn it. I was never given a darn thing like that as a teenager; I worked for EVERYTHING when I was teenager, and I took better care of it for that...my parents weren't perfect, but they helped me understand the value of the dollar by making me work for what I wanted, not just handing it over on a silver platter like most teenagers today.
Thirty minutes a day on a computer...that's pretty reasonable I would say! There are so many kids out there who don't even have computer access.
Count your blessings, dawlin'! You have caring parents who only want to make sure you are not polluted by garbage that exists on the computer and in music today. They love you enough to set boundaries. If they didn't set boundaries, I would be worried!
2007-02-08 10:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by futureteacher0613 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, sounds reasonable . 30 minutes on the computer sounds great unless there is something they are using the computer for that is important like a report...and that time limit allows other family members to be able to spend time on the net too.
What does a 13 y/o really need a cell phone for anyways? I would give mine one but they wouldn't be calling just anyone and they would use it for pretty much to keep in contact wth us, (parents). Asking to use things that are not yours is a good idea too, nothing wrong with teaching your kids respect for others property. Myspace is debatable, there are alot of perverts out there, if my 13 y/o had a Myspace it would be monitored daily. If you ask me no child needs to have a cd with curse words on it, get the clean version...when they are 18 they can decide whether or not to buy the dirty version...you just hope you raised them right, but there's nothing wrong with putting limits and having rules about certain things, it builds character and integrity!
2007-02-04 14:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they aren't that strict. Parents have rules, all parents are different, and you learn to deal with the rules you have. At least you don't have to pay for your own cell!
That said, you need to give a little more information on the 30 minutes of computer time. Is that 30 minutes of personal time, or is that for everything? Since so many teachers require web research for papers these days, and when you get to high school you'll hafta do a lot of your assignments online, 30 minutes won't cut it. But if they're restricting you to 30 minutes of personal time outside of required schoolwork, then that's fine.
I do know that 30 minutes of computer time for schoolwork won't cut it because when I was in high school (and this was 10 years ago), we would have almost an hour of computer work a night. And almost all teachers today want their papers typed out in MS Word or WordPerfect, and you can't do that in only 30 minutes either.
2007-02-04 13:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by caysdaddy04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everything is reasonable except for the parental advisory cds. Today you hear swearing on TBS and you see violence and murder on tv shows like 24 and CSI. What's the difference between hearing violent songs and swearing on a cd and seeing it on tv? As for MYspace.com and the computer computer time there are many sick people out there who are masters of manipulation and their targets are younger adults. I know 13 year olds probably think they are strong enough to stay away from this stuff but you would be suprised at how many say that they didn't really know what they were getting into before it was too late. Parents just want to protect their kids because they love them. They don't want to see them get hurt and that's something that you only realize when you have children of your own. Believe me it's one of the hardest things to do, be a parent, and a cool one at that. The cell phone rule is also not so bad of an idea. On one hand it would be nice to have one in an emergency but on the other hand you know that you would be chatting with your friends and getting up to date on minute to minute gossip. I'm an adult and I get yelled at by my husband for that same reason. The minutes cost $$$. It's a bummer but it's the truth and some parents can't afford to pay that $$$. I know we can't. Chores around the house not only make you independant, but they get you ready for living on your own when you turn 18, and maybe in the process you can get that money to pay for that phone.
2007-02-04 13:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't sound unreasonable depending on your attitude. Around my house a bad attitude gets you none of the above. A good attitude lets me know you are respectful enought to have these privileges... Myspace can be dangerous.. anyone can track you down. As for paying for the cell.. that sounds reasonalbe to me. 30 minutes on the computer is a little strict.. maybe you can earn more time with chores? Don't know what a parental advisory CD is....
2007-02-04 12:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they are not too strict. You really don't need a myspace and what are you going to do on the computer? Why do you need a cell phone? Those are not cheap for one and there are better things to spend time on than talking on the phone. Wait until you are a parent and you will understand. They are #1 trying to help you prepare for life, # 2 they are trying to protect you from wackos at myspace, and #3 they are trying to teach you a sense of responsiblity.
2007-02-04 12:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by celticwarrior7758 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i do not think they are strict.... i think they are acting like parents that really really love their child and that they are willing to make you sad if it means you will be safe.
i wont let my boys on the computer either , nor do they get cells. it isnt that i dont trust them. i just know how wonderful they are and that theyalways want to see the good in everyone, but the fact is that not everyone is good. if anyone ever looked at my kids wrong i'd claw their eyes out and someone would have to drag me off the person.
i think you need to think about this from your parents side because it appears to me that you are their world and they are just doing their best to protect you from the problems that come with these freedoms.
news has shown many stories of kids using cell phones and myspace to bully other kids. we even had a local girl kidnapped because someone took her information off of myspace. and this is indiana a place where kids are usually very very safe. once you put your info into myspace, anyone can find you!!
2007-02-04 13:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every parent does what they think is best. So if this parent(s) thinks this is good, then it is good for their child.
I think it is crazy that 13 yr olds have cell phones! unless they use their mom or dads if they are out with friends at the movies or something, but not their own.
Computers, though are necessary nowadays. It is good to let children use them (with supervision) so they can learn. The world is becoming computer based.
CDs and Myspace are your own thing. Parents should do what they think is best!
2007-02-04 13:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Brandiibaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are being good parents, as much as you don't want to hear it. They are looking out for you and trying to keep you safe. 13 is still really young. There is a lot of bad that can come from being online all the time, especially from Myspace. There are a lot more predators out there than you'd think, and they are just trying to protect you.
If you want a cell phone, paying for it yourself is not a lot to ask. Maybe if you prove yourself responsible enough to earn and save the money for the bill, they'll loosen up on some of the other stuff.
2007-02-04 12:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no... I thnk they are looking out for the best interests of the 13.... my 15yr old is not allowed a cell AT ALL...and if I did allow it? she would pay for it... not me! she gets thirty minutes to an hour computer... she is allowed a myspace as of this year... but I have the password and she is on it in my kitchen with me able to see it... and I watch/take over at times too.... parental advisory cd? we might differ here.... If the "artist's message should have violent words and can not be conveyed any other way? I see no reason to not allow it... as long as I have explained my take on the language and or content and she fully understands what I do not like or what I disagree with and why I am allowing her to listen to the version with foul language or violence.... (I listen with her.. or before hand.... we like the same music often.... sorry)
btw? she had to jump thru hoops to show me she is mature enough to have even that much... and it is taken the minute grades fall (even one point) or there is any back talk.... or she shows me any amount of lack of maturity or ability to be mature.... in choices.... so... she is still jumping those hoops... is it worth it? hmmm...
2007-02-04 13:27:59 · answer #11 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋