I basically told my grandmother if she didnt like that my fiance and i were getting married when i am 18 that she didnt have to come to the wedding if she didnt want to was that the right thing to tell her or should i have been nicer about it?
2007-02-04 12:39:07 · 15 answers · asked by nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She seems like a wise woman. Listen to her.
2007-02-04 12:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Cammie 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You could have been nicer but it needed to be said to her. I too got married when I was 18 but I didnt say anything like that to my Grandmother that just constantly nagged me about it until my wedding day. I love her dearly but it drove me nuts. You are already going to be stressed out you do not need the extra stress put on you.
2007-02-04 20:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by j_kuemmel02 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is right you are mentally to young to get married if you can not even have an adult conversation with her on why she thinks you should Waite. I am sure at her age she has seen allot. You might want to close your mouth and open your ears and listen to her I am sure she has a good reason for saying what she said. No grandmother would say that if he was such a catch.
2007-02-07 17:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have chosen your words better. Your grandmother loves you and she is only offering her words of wisdom. I think you should retract what you said. The idealistically, you will only marry once. Aren't you going to feel bad to not have your grandmother there? What if something is to happen to her? If, God forbid, she passes away soon, you are going to live with the regret of having treated her that way. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and if she believes you are too young, so be it. I would think it over and apologize to her. I'm sure she's not doing it out of hate or anything. She just wants you to learn how to find your limits and exceed them before you decide to settle down and create a family.
2007-02-04 21:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by Yessi H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before you thought of marrying, did you try to eat your favorite food for a month straight for breakfast, lunch and dinner-and still reallly, really, love it? I know, I know-food and men aren't the same....I've been married, though. Anyway did you ask her why she didn't want you to get married? Maybe, if she understood your reason, she would be more accepting? Don't jump to any conclusions...maybe she's worried she won't see you as much, maybe she thinks you're too young? Whatever the reason....if you really want to keep a relationship with her, try to talk to her. It could work. You seem mature to me. The fact that you're concerned about your grandma's feelings gets an A+ in my book. I hope you can work it out.
2007-02-04 20:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a grandma and I think you are too young to get married, too. And I think you owe your grandmother an apology for saying that to her. I would feel very hurt if my granddaughter talked that way to me. I have a 17 1/2 year old granddaughter, and I would say the same thing to her that your grandmother did!
Get some more education. If it's really love, it will wait.
2007-02-05 04:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your grandmother may be trying to tell you something, but it's probably coming out the wrong way.
You're so young at 18. My English teacher always told me that we needed to be independent before we even thought about marriage. We needed to be able to make it on our own. We needed to be able to live on our own. Trust me, it's tough.
I'm 23 and getting married and my fiance is 25. We are somewhat stable...we both have good jobs...but still, it's going to be tough.
Marriage is a whole 'nother world.
2007-02-04 21:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Woah, 18 is way tooo young. Girls shouldn't get married until they are atleast 22 or 23. Your mind grows from the age of 18-22, and what you want changes. And plus, whats the hurry? Enjoy your life a little bit, once you get married your with that person for the rest of your life! In your case, that could be 70+ years!
2007-02-04 21:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lebanese_Mafia 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
that is fine...i mean you do what your heart tells you and that is that. if you are in love and confident in where the relationship is going it doesn't matter that you are young. i dont know, i would try to talk to her again and just tell her simply how you feel and why you are chosing to do this. She may come around if she can see things from your perspective...and if not there is nothing more that you can do about it. and dont let that stop you from doing what you think is right.
2007-02-04 20:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by tropical girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She right, don't get married this young. Why don't you go to college first and get a degree, then get married. If that's not an option, then at least wait until you are 21. If your fiance really cares about you, he will agree and should be concerned about what your family thinks of your relationship.
2007-02-04 20:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
tell her the reason you want to get married so early. if she does not approve tell her then, that she does not have to go to the wedding. but you would really like her support. if you have any other questions e-mail me at love2read141@yahoo.com
2007-02-04 21:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by love2read141 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋