ok so im 17 and my bf is 19, hes really controlling, we have been together for 5 years, he cheated on me 3 years ago and now he has a 2 year old son who has been living with us since he was 3 months ((his mother left him at our house and never came bac 4 him)) well i have raised his son as if he is my child, but he doesnt take care of his own kid, well now im pg by him. hes physically abusive and he is verbaly abusive. well if i leave him im afraid if i leave i cant take angel with me (( angel is his son )) im not allowed to leave the house unless im going to class (college courses, i graduated highschool last year) and he always tells his friends wat i look like naked and its really humiliating he tells me im fat (im not im 5'5 and im 132lbs) but im scared that he will hurt me now cuz im pg, he wanted me pg tho, i havent told him and im really scared im gonna get hurt even worse, and if i left could i get custody of angel, he thinks im his mommy?
2007-02-04 12:37:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont wanna be with emilio anymore, im scared of him. the first time he hit me was when angel was 5months and i haddnt made dinner yet cuz i was giving angel a bath ( i was 15 ) the last time he hit me was yesterday, he said it was cuz i wasnt behaving like i should because i was walking around MY house with just a t-shirt and panties on. i dont no wat to do with this situation, im emancipated from my parents, and i dont speak with them. i really wanna get out and have angel with me, we live in a really nice neighborhood in miami and hes nice infront of other people but when we get home hes a control freak, and i think he is still cheatin on me cuz he doesnt come home till like 3 or 4 in the morning
2007-02-04 12:37:45 · update #1
hes NOT a good father, hes NEVER at home, he NEVER spends time with HIS son, and angel doesnt call him daddy he calls him emilio cuz hes never been there for him, im fed up with him and i want to take angel with me. he calls me names he hits me in frount of angel and thats not good and i dont want to be with emilio anymore, he tells me im ugly and that im fat, he tells me imma ho ((hes the only man ive been with)) and that he is the only man i willl ever be with and the only mad i can get and that hes with me cuz he felt sorry for me, i really do love him ((which is bad)) but i want out of this relationship and dont want him in my unborn childs life AT ALL
2007-02-04 12:39:58 · update #2
OMG you need to get out of the house. Take Angel with you and go to the police. Right Now!!!!!!! If he isn't there then leave NOW!!!!! He's abusing you and you need to go to the police! If you cant get out now, then leave whenever he's sleeping. If you need help concating the police then e-mail me at aprilbergfeld1@yahoo.com I will help you and call the police for you. OMG I am soooooo sorry that you are in this realationship. If you dont want to tell the police then tell one of your teachers and have them help you. This is abuse and you NEED help!
2007-02-04 12:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by April 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, you poor thing.
That man has got you exactly where he wants you---taking care of the son HE created, and now pregnant. He wants you completely dependant on him so that you can't leave.
That's what abusive men do. They cut you off from any people who could serve as your support system. Then they destroy your self-esteem shred by shred, so that you'll think no one else could ever, ever want you.
You need to get out NOW, and get a personal protection order if necessary against him. Is there ANY adult in your life you could turn to for help? An older sibling, any relative that you could stay with? If not, go to Social Services and see if they can help you get your own place.
There's not much likelihood that you'll get custody of Angel. I know you love him, but you are so young and have your hands so full right now...I hope he has loving grandparents, or an aunt and uncle, that he can stay with, because he's better off without his Dad as well.
I also have to ask you this...and I'm not trying to persuade you one way or another....but are you sure you want to have this baby? Or would you consider placing it for adoption when it's born? You're only 17, you're in college. You're so intelligent, and you have so much ahead of you...it's way to early in your young life to have so many problems.
But whatever you choose to do, please don't let your BF dictate to you how it's gonna be for one minute longer. You need him out of your life, and the sooner, the better.
PS Is there any chance you could reconcile with your parents? Something tells me that your BF is probably the reason that you're not on terms with them, and you need them in your life right now. Best of luck to you Sweetie.
2007-02-04 13:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. You should LEAVE TOWN. Do not take his son with you. I know you love him, but it's HIS son & you could be charged with kidnapping. DO NOT tell him you're pregnant. He only wanted you to get pg, so you wouldn't leave him. Get an abortion. If you keep the baby, he will want to see it, and then he's back in your life, making you miserable again. There are alot of graves with young females who were in your situation & WAITED TOO LONG to leave the BAS..... You CANNOT change him. It's not you who's making him act this way. Call your mom. There are places who take in women who are being abused. Ask them if you can go to one in another town. Just for now, you should not be going to college. There's other things more important, (like your life.)
2007-02-04 13:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by scaredeycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if he is doing this to you then you should call the police. You don't need to put up with that kind of abuse. And if he is a danger to your child or his then he doesn't need to be around them he should be locked up were he can't hurt them. Don't let him do that again when you get a chance at school then go to a counsiler or someone that can help. Don't take this anymore. Tell someone that can help you and keep him away from you and your child. I wish you the best of luck. If you need more help then email me back. romeo3448@yahoo.com please don't hesitat. Good Luck. Don't let him do this anymore. Do something about this now before it is too late.
2007-02-04 12:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by romeo3448 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a pig. Anyone who treats their girlfriend like he treats you deserves a swift kick in the nuts. You need to get out of that relationship, it's just going to bring you down. There are plenty of other guys out there that will treat you like a queen and like a human being, unlike your boyfriend. If he's beating you, talk to the cops or "stop domestic violence" and get it to stop. You don't deserve to be treated like this. No female does. As for the child, I don't know what to say that would help you, I wish I could, but I can't.
Maybe get a restraining order on this guy so if so much as comes within ten feet of you, he'll get thrown in jail.
PS: I'm sorry you have to go through this, I hope you can get away from him, and find a guy that will treat you much better. My sympathies go out to you. Good luck.
2007-02-04 13:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by aureliusrocker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, well let me first take the time to say how i didnt completely read your entire story, but i know exactly what to say.
tell someone your situation, weather its a parent, teacher, councilor at school, guardian, etc. just tell someone. dont let this boy control your life and do not let him hit you or anything. dont let him feel as though he can do anything to you. like hes in control of you. have you ever told him to stop? if not, you need to. if you have to, you should get the police involved. it doesnt matter if he supposidly "loves" you or not. he is trying to control your life and he doesnt care what he does as long as he gets his way. if you respect yourself, you should get rid of his scummy ***. hes disrespecting you and your feelings. why keep him if he cheated on you and got another girl pregnant? how do you know he wanted to get you pregnant to then leave you for another girl?
2007-02-04 12:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by xcelticsbabee34x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,he cant touch you first of all in a abusive way,he can go to jail.And if he keeps abusing you call the cops.Talk to your friends ask them for help?got to the court house and aske about custody.if you need any more help you can talk to me!=]
2007-02-04 12:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by hayhay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call the police immediately!
2007-02-04 12:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋