I have been with this guy for almost 8 months , and just recentley we have been fighting alot , i have an anger problem i'll admit that and in my family we tend to yell alot, it something i have been struggling with all my life i say this because i am not all innocent in this , my boyfriend just recentely started do this that make me feel like physical volience isent to far away and just yesterday we argued in the car and he slammed his breaks and i diddnt have a seatbelt on i scrapped my hand on the window seal, he says he diddnt mean to do that , but it felt like he did, iam severely confused about what to do i am almost completley dependent on him my family doesnt help but so much , its like i am stuck , i need advice on how to be strong when the person your head overheels for hurts and doesnt treat you well , and what my next step should be, i live with him and have so since 8 months which may very well be the problem but , i am also a struggling christan (baptist ) he isent thank
2007-02-04 12:23:56 · 7 answers · asked by Holly P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
being older i use to have anger problems too,I have learned that you only hurt yourself whether your innocent in all this or not if he ever hits you once remember he will do it again,there is a reason you think it may be leading to violence if he is hurting you and not treating you well he may think he has you in a bind and can mistreat you,you are never stuck there are ways to avoid being mistreated even if you have to go to the DHS remember that is what it is there for you are not a door mat but talk to him and make sure your feelings are warranted God did not put us here to be mistreated be sure that you know that you have purpose........God Bless
2007-02-04 12:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a hard situation but i believe that th best ay is to sit and talk with him, make him understand that sometimes he hurts u and u cant take it anymore. ask him if he needs some time to b alone so he will feel that he doesnt have u for sure and if he say yes then leave him for a while. maybe u will like it better too to b away from him. try to meet with ur friends or make new ones coz i believe u dont have a lot and start goin out with them. friends can b there for u and help u too whn ur family isnt realy there not just a boyfriend
2007-02-04 20:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Madam!
I understand what u going through. U have to live life to the fullest.
Just stay calm. When travelling, wear seatbelts and also try to engage in some leisure activities such a smusic, clubbing etc. etc to relax ur mind.
Now also try to upskill urself to find a job. U can do it madam. Just try for once. Its never too late to try.
Email me- michael_chang1123@yahoo.com
Cheers
Mike
2007-02-04 20:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i jst feel there's lot more for u to change dear...
Wen u are angry.. everything would be negetive to u dear.. like.. ur guy minght have done it accidently but it will be a fault for u as u are alreadi mad at him..
Control ur temper.. u can never do a correct decision wen u yell!! Sooner or Later ur boy frend might lose his respect on u so save it gal..
2007-02-04 20:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by sUnseT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been going out a long time it might be hard but if he might be wanting to hurt u you should say good-bye
2007-02-04 20:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by saltillo_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to not live with him everybody needs space sometimes take the time to get to know him work on your self-esteem
2007-02-04 20:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by rednsweet4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love them and leave them. you can do better and you may want to take an anger management class
2007-02-04 20:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋