who he hadnt talked to in over a year died about a month ago, and all he does is talk about her and how they used to be so much in love, and how she was there for him ( kind of like we are). but now its going to far. he had a shirt on today that had her photo on it. do you think he has gone a little too far , or am i just going crazy?
2007-02-04 12:20:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you haven't gone crazy, after his ex died I'm guessing he felt an unusual amount of guilt for her passing. Maybe they didn't split under nice terms, and through talking about her and wearing a shirt with her picture on it, his mind is at ease. To put it bluntly however, it doesn't matter if that's the case, what he's doing is insensitive. It's no different than you laying in the bed with him and saying how much bigger your last ex was. Not the best start to having a great relationship is it?!
An attachment to the past through ex-lovers indicates a person who needs time to heal or just plain spitefulness. He's with you now and not with her, he hasn't been for over a year so my advice to you would be to sit him down and ask point blank why he is still hung up over this woman. Tell him how you feel second guessed and used as the rebound girl, because it feels as though he cares more about her than he does with you. Gauge his reaction - if after the discussion he still can't understand how you feel, then it's time to leave and look for someone who is into you, and not someone else.
2007-02-04 12:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Bombay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um honestly, i think he has gone too far. Yes its understandable that he is missing her alot, but he should realize that he is with you, she's not here anymore and that he can't change the hands of time. I sympathize with him, really I do, but hey, if you're in a relationship with someone, you need to act as though you are really in a relationship with that person and cater to them (meaning to you that is). I don't think you're going crazy, i think he is going crazy. Probably talk to him about yall and that he have to realize that hey, its time for him to move on and that if he wants to be with you, then he needs to get over he and his ex's relationship.
2007-02-04 20:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by Bubble18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in deep mourning and doing the regret game. Remind him gently you are his girlfriend now and enough is enough.
If he doesn't stop or at least get it under control, he is over the top, break up and move on. He is too deep into a no win relationship with a decreased girl, you need someone who is there for you.
2007-02-04 20:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to look closer at your relationship it sounds to me that he was still in love with her before she died. He needs to make a choice, he can either live with the dead or live and love with the living, but he cannot have both.
2007-02-04 20:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has not been there for her for a whole year unless he was,
for him to wear a shirt with her picture is odd i would not wear it if my old girl died I would chock another one for death tell him to leave and visit the family of hers till he stops mourning for her and if you are still around he may be able to come back
2007-02-04 20:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by MSG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not going crazy, he is.
2007-02-04 20:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Aidan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's dead. Are you that insecure?
2007-02-04 20:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋