I have been dating this mormon guy for about four months now and I am of a different religion. Things seem to be going pretty well between us but he keeps on wanting me to meet up with the missionairies and wants me to come to all his church activities, I don't know if I should continue this relationship, I am not sure if he is trying to convert or really likes me even if I am a different faith,I have talked to him before about this issue and he says anyone has his free will to choose who they want to date but the church discourages it. Should I stay in the relationship or just remain friends? Thank you!
2007-02-04 12:10:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is important to be completely honest with him (and he with you). It is completely up to you whether or not you want to go to church with him or become a member of his church, but you should be clear with whatever choice you make. If you don't want to be a member let him know and then he can decide if that is something he is okay with (as he will be giving up a lot in his faith to get serious with you/marry you).
I am Mormon and married a beautiful and intelligent agnostic woman. We were very clear up front about our beliefs and where we saw us being down the road. She does not believe in my faith (and thinks it's a little wacky), but she respects me, as I do her. I go to church every week and do my thing. There will always be an extra hurdle in your relationship (and religion is a big on), so you both must be aware and willing to overcome it. Not that you want to ever enter a relationship with a known hurdle already in your way (because it's not easy to begin with), but it can work. I am very happy and love my wife very much. We have a beautiful baby boy and I can't wait to spend my life with her. Again, I should reiterate, it's not always easy, but if you have a foundation based on excellent communication, trust and respect, it can work. Good luck.
2007-02-05 03:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Utah, the mormon state or LDS faith as they like to refer to it. I'm not going to lie, be careful. I'm not sure how old you are but I know that most young LDS men go on missions when they are 19, return when they're 21 and then are strongly encouraged to be married within a few years, if not sooner.
My best friend is LDS and invites me to activities and socials from time to time. In there teachings they are encouraged to bring friends and "share the word of Christ" It's not a big deal in most cases but some people can take it overboard and try can convert you. Again be careful. KNOW WHO YOU ARE.
For now there's nothing wrong with dating him, just know that if things do become serious you two with have a lot of barriers to work through.
One last thing, ask. Just ask why he's dating you.
2007-02-04 20:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure how to help you with this; it's a pretty tricky situation. The best I can tihnk to do is talk to him more. Tell him, (even if you've been through this already) that you really like him and you want to stay in the relationship, but you are confused by what he's been doing. Get the facts.
If he does like you, but his church apposes him dating you, he needs to make a choice. Let him know that you are not going to be drawn into his religion. Set your limits with this guy.
2007-02-04 20:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take this issue to your parents and discuss it with them. There certainly isn't any harm in your going to his church functions but you need to make it clear to him that you practice your own religion but you do have respect for his and he should have for yours. I also think this depends on how old you are and how mature the two of you are and how serious you are about your relationship. Good luck!
2007-02-04 20:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋