how can i emmegrate with all the problems i have? how can i brake away from the life i have and go my own way?

Question

i have very traumatic symptoms right now and live in a flat on my own, im waiting a second opinion. i dont have any friends except my mum & dad for support. i feel i depend alot on them. their both divourced. im 29 & feel i should be far more established in life now..that i should be working & living in my own house. with a girlfriend. i even want to emmegrate to the us or canada..but i feel with the problems ive got and the dependancy i feel. these things can never happen. ive mist out in life, in my teens and all of my 20's because of my psychiatric problems. im now 29.& still struggling with racing thoughts, paranoid ideas, confusion, disorganised thinking, struggling to control inner rage, afraid ill act out, barge and knock people over, like i used to, when i had an outburst..i await a second opinion. & am worrying whats wrong with me, can i be treated?, i have low moods everyday, socially isolated myself, i have no energy, struggling to even brush my teeth.times runnin out im 29!

i spoke to a samaritan women the other day and lost my anger at her, she was saying how do i no that when i get my second opinion, they might still say, i dont have a mental illness. i felt she was trying to wind me up...i was seething and gritting my teeth down the phone at her, i said to her ima rip your f ing head off u b***tch, and she started laughing at me...all i did was phone up to talk about my despair, and i get that !! but im disturbed at how badly i lost control of my rage and felt violent, i really meant the things i said to her at the time...i thought jesus christ am i a serial killer or something?

Answer 1

Well, you could do as the old Nike commercial used to say: "Just do it". Successful people don't lament about stuff, they just go ahead and do it without regard to fear of failure or any of that nonsense. The are patient and persistent. I learned this the hard way. Stop dwelling on failure and concentrate on success.

Answer 2

I can understand how you are feeling to some extent.I suffer from Agoraphobia and have been locked away in my parents house since 1998 because of the fear.I have been getting treatment for the past year and it is helping, although it's a very slow process.I have lost 9 years of my life.I struggle with alot of the same things you have discribed and it's hard to deal with those things all day every day.I get tired of fighting myself all the time.Have you tried getting professional help? I didn't for 8 years, but i can tell you that for me personally, seeking professional help has been so much better for me than medication.I am finally medication free for the first time in 8 years and it all has to do with my counsellor.
It's never too late to get established in life.I have never had a job in all my life, but i don't give up the hope that one day i will find a job that i am capable of doing.

Answer 3

Just relax. When you feel calm, make a simple plan for tomorrow to stay calm and get something accomplished at home. Do that again a few more days. When you have mastered that control over yourself for a few days, make a new plan to get out for a while by yourself. Pick someplace you are comfortable in and familiar with. Be prepared for the unexpected so you don't get thrown off task. Just keep interaction with others minimal. Take things slow, but try to make progress every day. I used to feel that way, overwhelmed and like I could never be normal. I simplified my life. Soon I felt able to trust myself not to do anything rash. Every now and then I have a reminder of how I used to feel. I can console myself with the knowlege that I'm doing everything I can to keep my life calm and my emotions serene. See a therapist regularly. It helped me a lot. I've been able to get things accomplished and I'm pretty happy. Good luck.

Answer 4

Oh, my goodness. Don't even think of immigrating just now. Get better, as you will only have your problems in another country, with no support system. Where ever you go, there you are!
Get help from a free clinic, or whatever is available where you live. But get it now. Medicines do wonders for what you have, and counselors can help you with the rage and acting out. You may have schizophrenia, bipolar or similar conditions, and again, they CAN be treated. Don't struggle any longer.
29 isn't old; you can do anything you want, but you must be on medications, and you will feel so much better. It takes awhile to find the right dosage, but don't give up.
I finished my Master's at age 56 and worked since 1970 on it, due to problems, divorce, children, etc. But I never gave up. So, please, please get help. Not on the computer, in person. Hugs.

Answer 5

Sometimes we dont have choices and are better to stay with the support that we already have. moving away will isolate you more I know this is probably not what you want to hear but maybe a stay in hospital where you can get daily assistance will benefit you, If you decide to do this you will be helping yourself by controlling your own situation which would be a step forward. Good Luck

Answer 6

One good thing about you is that you seem to want to get better, and you understand your problems. Don't be so hard on yourself.

I don't think you can get better on your own. You need some help, and there is no shame in that.

I would recommend some good psychiatric counseling along with the support of your parents. With the right treatment and counseling, you may be able to better deal with your problems.

You are still relatively young. Don't give up. You obviously want help because you are asking for it here. Ask your parents to help you get the help you need so that you can live the life that you want to live.

I bid you peace.

Answer 7

No matter where you go in this world, you willl come to realise that you cannot escape or run away from yourself. All your issues are coming from within and you will take them with you anywhere you go. Going to another place or another country will not help you. YOu will have a momentary happiness from the excitement of being in a new place, but then it will be short lived. If you cannot get your life together in your home town, how can you expect to get on your feet anywhere else?

You are suffering from depression. Severe depression from the sound of it. I am not a doctor or a therapist, but I have chemical depression and have a friend who is bi-polar. Your symptoms are corrolating with symptoms of severe depression that is caused by chemical imbalance in the brain. Either you have chemical depression or a bi-polar condition. Please go to a doctor. He or she can give you guidance in how to determine what you have.

Your lack of understanding of your depression is causing you anger and self-hate. You must not allow the lack of understanding and knowledge to continue if you do not get the answers for yourself.

Your life can only change if you can undertand what you are within. There is nowhere you can go but within. It will always persist wherever you are.

Please see a doctor.

Answer 8

I agree with former poster--- the worst thing you could do with all you are dealing with would be to move to a strange new place where you knew no one and had no support whatsoever.
A change such as you are talking about can be very difficult for even a mentally healthy individual. It would be devastating to someone like yourself.
God bless your mom and dad-- what would you do without them?
Get help-- where you are now!
Good luck

Answer 9

I don't think it would be a good idea to immigrate now. You have to get your mental problems figured out and treated first. It sounds like you have lots of anger, maybe too much for a roommate now, but after you are on medicine for your mental problems you could have a roommate in a flat.

Answer 10

SOMETIMES YOU:VE GOT TO LET GO OF THINGS IN ORDER TO MOVE ON ,MY OPINION IS TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS, FACE LIFE,OR CONTINUE ON AND FACE THE FACT THAT YOUR NEVER GOING TO CHANGE YOUR WAYS /OR START OVER SOMEWHERE FAR AWAY