Hi Can anyone tell me the truth? I love a girl who is 8 years younger than me and is my close friend's sister too. I love her since i saw her very first time in my life. I really want to marry her. I tried a lot to talk to her as I live very far (Overseas) from her, but did not get much success. Can anyone tell me is the age difference ok or too big? and the other thing i don't know what she thinks about me? Is it a betrayal to my friend? I need an urgent answer as my parents are looking a bride for me.
2007-02-04 11:45:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My dear young man you are reminding me my younger days. My wife is 7 years younger than me and she is sister of my classmate, friend and colleague. We are married for 19 years.
I first had asked my friend if he had any objection. When he said its OK with him I asked his sister to marry me. Even I sent the first letter to her through my friend only.
All the best.
2007-02-04 12:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you want to marry her. This word marriage has all the power, it clears your mind pattern and motive to all and this is global accepted, not just in India.
So you have love, and a passion to spend your life with the girl you love. Then what is the problem Ritz
I guess, it might be this.
1. You are unsure, that she is quite younger and if you tell her, how wud she react.
2. Your close friends sis and that wud mean if you tell her family and they do not approve of your proposal, Then it can mean being cut off from that family.
Atleast right now you have an access to see her and talk to her. Disclosing your heart may sabotage this all........
So the question you ask ur self every time. Is it right to take this risk?
(I have assumed this all,as I felt it is this way. If not, then I you still need to wait for some one else to get on right wavelength with you)
To all ur doubts. I have only this to say. If you do not say now, then never say it later. if you are financially sound to start a new life, mentally prepared to accept the responsibilty that comes ur way after marriage, and still do not speak it out now.
Then what are you waiting for! Coz, time will only add up your years.
Yes, it is difficult risk and may cut you off. But a lot depends on your approach.
1. How well do you know your girl? Find out what the girl and her family is looking for. Is the girl single or she has a relation ship going ON. You need to find this all out. If you live far away, use some help. Friends might be of use in this.
2. How well do you know her family and your buddy, what is the family status of their to your family. Equal or lower or higher.
And when you have confirmed all this. Then go to her and tell her you love her and want to marry her. Listen what she has to say. May be she dis-approves of this. Maybe you need some time.
Once you get in sync with her. Then talk to her parents.
As an advise. I would recommend that once she accepts your presence in her life, straight away talk to ur friend and her family abt marriage, without wasting any time. That would relieve you of lot of trouble
2007-02-04 12:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years is not bad, as long as she is an adult. You should talk to her for a while and then when you get the courage, tell her how you feel about her. She'll more than likely tell you in some way how she feels about you. It is not a betrayal to your friend, but if you and his sister end on bad terms, then your friendship could suffer because of it, especially if he is close to her.
2007-02-04 11:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not say if the age difference is to large. I need to know both of your ages.
By the way you talk I would say that you're not that old and if your parents are looking for a bride for you this points to being young as well.
2007-02-04 11:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sweet. I don't think age matters at all. It's just numbers, if you love someone thats.. 10 years older than you, or younger I say go for it. And you would need to know what she thinks of you.
In my opinion, if your friend is an actual friend he/she will have no problem with this.
2007-02-04 11:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ritz, you have to make things simple, and kill two birds with one stone.
This is the most opportune time for you to disclose your intention to your parents and have them do this for you. When they approach her family it will look more dignified and more acceptable and your chances would be brighter.
This age difference is no bar.
On the other hand if you take things in your hand, you run the risk of incurring some antagonism.
According to my suggestion, you will earn the goodwill and support of your parents which is vital for a person of your upbringing, and when they go to her for negotiation, it will be more appropriate.
2007-02-04 13:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with the Vasu dude! All de best. And plus.....wat is so special about this gal dat u r after her with such urgent need. Pliz do tell. I'm truely interested. Cheers. Go get her boy (through diplomatic means though).
2007-02-04 16:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Duski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it thoroughly relies upon on how the different man or woman in this relation thinks over it if she is heavily in touch in it than we in all probability can say its high-quality yet whilst she would not than it would create a genuine mess if u r effective sufficient to marry her it wont be a huge deal.yet be sure so some distance as conceivable attempt & make the two considered one of u're parents confident yet whilst they dont & u have hopefully desperate to marry than u can gain this.
2016-10-01 10:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in this case i would say go for it not the wedding right now, but with telling her cause if you dont then you going to always wonder deep down in the inside about why you didn't tell her at all, at leaset if it dones go right she will still know where your heart was at., but it's your bf sister, one of the questions you need to ask is can i handle it when it comes to them both? if you and you bf dont get along anymore than what?, that's a risks that you going to have to take in dealings with a bf sister i know because i'm going through with it right now i dont want to see him anymore, but then i have to so it's like you in the middle, but do what your heart tells you to do
2007-02-04 11:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by ebony b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is under 18, please move on
Your friend SHOULD be able to understand and be ok with it since you two could be in laws, but every person is different.
If my friend liked my brother, id be very happy, but then again im a girl so I don't know how boys work.
I'd tell your friend and maybe he can hook ya up
2007-02-04 11:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋