How do you get someone who is emotionaly conservitive to open up?

Question

He was taught by his parents not to ask questions. And he dosn't talk about his feelings. How can I get him to see that he can trust me?

Answer 1

This takes time. You are going into some pretty deep territory here. This is actually getting to the core or makeup of a man and that is something that cannot be rushed. Patience is something you will have to exercise tremendously. Then also, you need to introduce small things that are interesting to both of you and discuss them. It could be simple things like the environment, charities, music, dances, games, weather, summer vacations...you will be getting to know him as well as making him more comfortable with you. Each time introduce a topic that is more involved and sometimes you may be surprised how some of his life's experiences may come out.

Answer 2

With time. Old habits die hard. Guys aren't real talkers anyway, as you know. Whenever I have a problem, the last thing I want to do is talk to someone, especially a girl about it. Most guys would rather keep our "feelings" inside and deal with them on our own terms. We hate it when women try to get us to open up. Why can't you girls just understand that it's the way guys work and accept it instead of always trying to push us.

Answer 3

try being patient and listening - it normally takes a man 8-12 minutes before you ask him how he feels about something and the time he can answer you - men aren't women. you have to get into his world a little and don't assume he can do something just because you can. He isn't you. and you aren't him. Most men can't easily identify their feelings at all. I know I can't. my wife died in June and I still haven't really cried at all. Most women cry and cry and cry when their husband dies. Men aren't all connected like women are. They aren't built the same - you'll have to be a lot more patient. Plus men don't ordinarily think it's ok to share things like that. They feel humiliated at the thought. So you'll have to wait and then when he finally starts to share, let him get it out. it takes a lot of patience. I know this.

Answer 4

1. If you want him to open up to you, you have to open up to him, too. Other wise, he'll either never open up to you, or he will, and then go back to being emotionally conservitive.
2. The only ways to show him he can trust you, is to never do antying to that would show him, he can't. And to always do something that he trusts you to do and never do anything that he trusts you to never do. I know that might seem confusing, but that' s the way it is, in life.

Answer 5

One way would be to trust and open up to him. Tell him when things hurt you, tell him secrets (about yourself! not other peoples'!) and don't pressure him for reciprocation.

It's also important to be observant. He might not tell you he's feeling down, but you can probably pick up on that yourself, and take initiative to tell him you're there if he wants to talk, or if you know what he's feeling down, talk about a similar situation you were in that would help him feel like he can tell you about his feelings in this one. And don't just be there when he's down; make sure he knows he can celebrate happinesses with you, that you will be happy for him and support him and be proud of his successes as well.

Answer 6

wel that depends on how long u guys have been together and how much trust use have for one another guys find it hard to talk about thing like that.. al i can say is keep trying but don't push the point.. he wil talk to u soon enough it just take time good luck..

Answer 7

Tell him that he can trust you, first of all...
Tell him how much it would mean to you to know that he trusts you, and how much he means to you.
And that he is one of your closet friends, and anything he tells you will only stay between the two of you.

Answer 8

woah.. just show him you're trustworthy.. and show him you're sincere.. but i must warn you, coz it would take time.. just wait..