Hey....I have been trying to be on good terms with my sister in law since I met her but she remains to dislike me. As soon as she met me she was rude to me. I have been married for 3 years to my husband and have come to find that his family walks on egg shells for her. Its his brother who is married to her...she did likes EVERYONE in her husbands family..so I really don't feel left out but whenever we get together at family events she is totally ignores my existence..this bothers me because I feel like you should be able to at least be friendly to your family...it bothers me so much I worry about it...and my husband and I fight about her...Any suggestions?
2007-02-04 11:32:49 · 15 answers · asked by sarastorm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't let it worry you at all. If that's the way she wants to be, then leave her alone. My advice is for you (and your hubby) is to keep your integrity intact.....so when or if she starts some mess about you or him, it won't ever be true. Sooner or later people will get tired of her and her mess. You'll see. Just be the same person that you normally are and ignore her. Let her make a fool out of herself. They usually do.....and fall pretty hard in the process. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-04 11:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say she dislikes everyone. Obviously, she has a major problem. Maybe at some point early in her relationship with her husband, she somehow got offended at a family get-together and she holds a grudge.
Make it a challenge to break the ice. Ignore her rudeness. Be friendly with her anyway. Don't push her into conversation, but ask how her week is going. Send her a birthday card, a Christmas card and a card once in awhile "just because". Kill her with kindness. Maybe you and your husband can take them out for pizza sometime.
Maybe she feels inferior somehow. In any case, it's sort of sad. I hope she snaps out of it someday. Life is too short to act like that all the time.
2007-02-04 13:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be polite and say hello, even try to ask about her health. If she ignores you and is rude well it's not your fault. She has serious problems and you should take heart from the fact that you at least tried. Just keep out of her way and enjoy being with the other family members. You know it is silly for you to worry because you can't do anything about it. Also it really isn't worth arguing with hubby about.
2007-02-04 11:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is rude to you, I would consider it a blessing that she doesnt communicate with you.
However, if you insist upon trying to make conversation, then be polite always. Even if she comes across rude or sarcastic, simply return it with a polite, non sarcastic answer. Ever heard the saying "Kill them with kindness." Thats what I would do.
She is probably one of those that thrives on the fact she gets under your skin.
Dont allow her to do it. She will eventually give up trying to bother you and move on to someone else. Stand your ground. Its not your job to kiss her @ss, so dont do it. If everyone else chooses to, then so be it. I understand your point. I have never been a good @ss kisser myself. lol
This is the only advice i can give you concerning someone who appears to be angry at the world. Just dont allow her to get to you. Its her problem, not yours and its definately not worth fighting with hubby over.
Good luck to you and BITE THAT TONGUE!!! ;)
2007-02-04 11:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- she sounds a lot like my sister. She gets along with everyone OK except for me (and my daughter). I've come to accept that she's a difficult person and let her comments/actions go in one ear and out the other. (Its difficult, but that's the only way to stay sane around her).
One of these day's, I figure, she's GOT to grow up. In the mean time, I'm not set on having a strong relationship with her. Its sad, but its not worth the aggrivation.
2007-02-04 11:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about it. She is who she is. Dont go out of your way to be nice to her. Just acknowledge her when you are at a function and then mingle with others. You dont need to kiss her butt. She is missing out on having you as a friend so it is her loss. Enjoy the rest of the family and forget her it isnt worth fighting with your hubby over it.
2007-02-04 12:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IGNORE HER!!! trust me this works, don't fight with your husband because honestly he is not going to take your side, and he is not going to understand your hurt.... next time your in a family event say hi to everyone except her, talk to everyone except her.... act has if you don't care about her..... better yet act has if you don't even see her.....
2007-02-04 12:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could ignore her, or you could bring to her attention when she is rude to you, regardless of who is around. It might embarass her but it also might wake her up. Don't fight with your husband about her, she is not worth it. Her problem just might be that she is jealous of you, especially if the family likes you and not her. Don't stoop to her level. Just be yourself. good luck
2007-02-04 11:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes, and it is quite agonizing for someone coming into your family that doesn't want to be a apart of it. The only thing to do is stay cordial to her, be above her snotty attitiude and your brother will hopefully eventually figure it out, mine did and kicked her to the curb, then we all said "we told you so"...
2007-02-04 12:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u r going thur, I had a sister in law who was a b---h from hell.
I came right out, and ask. her what her problem was? IT was not me she hated, she hated everyone, she had no friends, felt left out.
She did not change, and she never will.
so let it go, she is making u ans ur husband fight, now that makes her day.
2007-02-04 12:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by sam s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋