He says that he can not love me as he loves his kids and has no love left over for me. I don't want him to stop lovinghis kids but I try and tell him that the love that I am after is completly different from the love that he gives his kids. At the moment I feel like he is using me and doesn't care about me at all. I need help should I wait around for the love or move on?? Please help.
2007-02-04 11:31:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love is unconditional, you can never run out. if your boyfriend refuses to tell you he loves you, he might still have feelings for his ex wife (assuming he was married because he has kids.) never the less, you dont need to get too attached if he doesnt seem to have feelings for you, you will only get hurt in the end.
2007-02-04 11:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by lovejess0033 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all a man can love you and his children! I say move on, if he isn't in the relationship for the long hall, then don't waste your time. Find someone who will tell you he loves you all the time and who actually cares about your feelings. Two years is a long time and why is he still with you if he doesn't love you??? That sounds like someone who is using you. Think about yourself and what you want out of a relationship and see if he is giving it. Most likely he isn't. Good luck!
2007-02-04 11:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by jennisea04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right it is two different kind of love. The love of ones children, cannot compare to the love of a partner. May be he is just not ready for a commitment right now, My guess is he has been hurt. And do not know how to open up to any one right now, If you really love him, and you are willing to wait for him to get him self together, then stick around, if not may be, it is time to move on, may be if you do that, then he will see how he misses you, and will want only you!
2007-02-04 11:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not spend any more time waiting for your guy to have more love. True he shouldn't stop loving his kids, but if he says he has no love left over for you then it sounds like its time to move on. It will be hard but everyone, including you deserves to be happy. Best of luck to you! Be strong!
2007-02-04 11:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by wickid_klown02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, people with children have enough love 'left over' for their partners, other family members, etc. This guy just doesn't love YOU. Think about it.
2007-02-04 11:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by kitty-mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. If he shows that he loves you then that should be enough. If you are last on his list then that is another story. Hopefully he treats you well . It is better to be alone then to be mistreated though. There are plenty of people out there that will treat you well try to suround yourself with good people that show they love / care about you.
2007-02-04 11:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by conan999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON. APPARENTLY HE HAS NO IDEA THAT THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVING HIS CHILDREN AND LOVING A WOMEN. i REALLY THINK HOWEVER THAT HE JUST WANTS YOU AROUND TO HELP TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN AND EASY USE FOR HIM. RUN AND RUN FAST.
2007-02-04 11:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by H. D. Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's just using that for an excuse & a really stupid one I might add. there is 2 totally different kinds of love. he ain't feelin it.... move on.
2007-02-04 11:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on theres better out there
2007-02-04 11:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by amber j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he cant say the words? how is he otherwise with you? have some terrific sex with him and maybe he'll blurt out the words you long to hear.... hehe peace
2007-02-04 11:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋