My friends just told me that this girl I know may like me. However, she has emotional issues that may have stemmed from being molested in her past and failure to come to terms with it to this day. Regardless of the reason, I'm unsure whether or not to pursue this. I imagine that to dating anyone with emotional issues is very trying and can only lead to chaos in the end. Your thoughts?
2007-02-04 11:06:57 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u could date me - i aint got no emotional problems. Ok so deal with her like she was normal - no problems. If she needs to talk er wat ever, b there for her. dont pressure her, but help when need be. if you like the girl go after her - if not , drop me a line lol. if you wanna deal with her problelms, all the power to ya! good luck man.
2007-02-04 11:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by bananananana 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I actually knew a couple who was exactly in the same situation. From what I've seen, the relationship can lead to chaos. The guy I talked to really loves her but cannot stand her behaviour especially when she's around his friends or pretty much everyone. The girl is my best friend, and she does however have alot of issues and perceive things negatively. To be honest, I don't know if any normal person (or anyone) can stand being with someone like her. I'm not even sure if this can be a healthy relationship because he always pops a vein when he is with her.
You would have to be REAL patient if you were to be in this relationship and earn some trust. If you're committed to this relationship anything can happen.... and who knows maybe she'll be able to open up but it's gonna be hard for her to get outside her box. Maybe try out and see what happens.
2007-02-04 11:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jess3e 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK well she may have issues but it can't always be on her mind and sometimes she tries to hide it from everyone because she doesn't like to talk about, but always remember that she is a person too just a person that has a small trust issue and she has to have someone to trust into, or else she will never get over it...Even if you do not date this girl give her something to believe in and make sure she knows that it wasn't her fault and that she can still trust and believe in herself and in others.
2007-02-04 11:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by spunkie_6969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since every individual is different in handling emotional issues, there is no clear yes/no answer. I would suggest that you just become friends with her first. This will give you time to observe how she handles problems, how she deals with other people, and how stable she is. Just because a person has had a traumatic past does not necessarily mean that it would be trying or chaotic to have her in your life.
2007-02-04 11:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by rivkadacat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not already in anything serious with her, don't even start. Girls with issues can be nothing but chaos and that is a severe understatement-and I'm a girl. Not only can it mess with her head more if you dump her or something but it can take a toll on you too. Too much drama is for the movies.
2007-02-04 11:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by ALICIA D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! This is tricky! If God wants it to work, it will work. Emotional baggage is a hard, and trying, as you said, issue to deal with. I suggest trying out friendship for a while and building trust with her before entering into a quick "relationship and run". See if you're prepared to handle her instablity, because if things get serious, you'll be the first person she'll turn to for support.
2007-02-04 11:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by Natalie Donnae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you haven't had a lot of dating experience I would stay away. If you are mature and willing to deal with more drama (like 10-fold) than you have had in the past and figure yourself to be pretty patient then go for it.
Even the emotionally challenged need love!
2007-02-04 11:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts? I agree with you. I mean, ya can't just not associate with someone just because they have some problems, since all of us do. But at the same time, for YOUR sake, it's best to keep it at a friendly level as opposed to getting involved. On top of it, you as a human are unable to heal her emotional wounds, therefore leaving you with the weight of dealing with them, or simply TRYING to help. Even if you were to go into it knowing these things, she will not be able to keep from spilling it all over you. Avoid the chaos :)
2007-02-04 11:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it sounds like it would be chaos. you would have to have a tremendous amount of patience with her. Remember this too, ALL girls have emotional problems. Just some more than others.
2007-02-04 11:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if she is a crazy person then don't pursue. but if it is someone you really like and you want to be there for longterm, just go for it. But truly promise never to hurt or break her heart, then she will never trust again. she has not come to terms with her incident but is trusting you to take the first step with. Good luck
2007-02-04 11:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to deal with the past before she is in any shape to have a healthy relationship. Unless you are on a rescue mission, she just needs good friends until she deals with her issues! Ü
2007-02-04 11:10:32 · answer #11 · answered by NorthvilleNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋