i went into my boyfriends email and online accts and found some things that really upset me. One thing that pissed me off was the fact that he always told me how great of a guy he was and how i was the one for him yet i saw him sending messages to some girl calling her baby and saying that he misses her and this was 3 months into our relationship. I saw that he sent her an email of naked pics of himself but ive seen nothing more since july. I dont know what to do. I saw some other messages telling girls that he loved me an that he thought that something great was coming out of our relationship and that I was his #1. How should i take this. On the one hand he did acknowlege the relationship & cares for me to most of the girls he has spoken to but to this girl he didnt and calling her baby and saying he wishes she were online more so they could talk more and he misses her. i found a profile of hers and know she lives in a city near him and we are about 3 hours away from one another
2007-02-04 10:53:31 · 13 answers · asked by lovesickprincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what should i do about this?
2007-02-04 15:02:23 · update #1
can someone give some kind of advice
2007-02-06 01:41:19 · update #2
Online flirting is very hurtful to the other party, but often means next to nothing, it's just sport. This is a really tough question. On one hand, he might be cheating. On no accounts are you overreacting.
I think it's a good sign the he talks about you to other girls, and talks about how much he likes you. I would believe him, and tell him that his flirting really really hurts you. I did this once to my ex, I would have never cheated on her, but there was a girl I had been flirting with before we met, and was continued to flirt online with after her and I were steady.
It really didn't occur to me that it was wrong, I really had no intention of ever meeting that girl, it was just a game, but it really hurt her. I took her off my list and never talked to her again, it really was innocent, stupid, but innocent.
His may be the same, give him the benefit of the doubt. Wouldn't the worst thing be to split with your dream guy and always wonder if you were right?
2007-02-09 11:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by badbadboy6979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. What do you bloody think you are doing in someone else's email? That's not very ethical of you. 2. Yes, this should worry you. he is probably not cheating on you, but he is probably too close to another girl for comfort. 3. Confront him with it. If he denies it, admit you were in his email. That way all secrets will be revealed. Only then will a course of action emerge. You may have to dump him, depending upon his response.
2007-02-12 17:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider cheating anything that he wouldn't be doing in front of you i.e. calling her baby, saying he misses her, naked pics. Come on now there is something going on and I can tell you it won't have a good ending. If you really care about him, call him out instead of sitting around and hurting yourself more in the end.
2007-02-12 19:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by DD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE only dating...right? I don't think I'd snoop if we were only dating...what I don't know won't hurt me. If we were married, this would be another animal all together. However, even if married to him...I would only snoop if he gave me some kind of indication that something was amiss. Know what I mean?
In other words, I think you are out of line...too many people nowadays act like they are married but NOT. Know where your place is. You don't have a ring on your finger and, to be honest, you are coming across as a psycho who is soooo insecure that she can't keep her nose out of her man's PRIVATE accounts.
CherOkeeMaydyn
wife of MaydynzWarrior
2007-02-12 00:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by maydynzwarrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is using this other girl that he has not acknowledged his relationship to as a back up plan if you and him dont work out. I'm guessing that she is not as interested in him as he is to the reason why you havent seen anything since July. i wouldn't want to be number two to some other girl. this is the pre determinate to a cheater so if you want that deal wit it if not walk away.
2007-02-12 18:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by kaybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM ABOUT IT! if you really want to know, the only way you are going to find out is if you ask. Casually bring up something about the internet and tell him you accessed his accounts for some reason and found it. Let him explain and dont explode on him. TALK about it and go from there
2007-02-12 17:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by sufreshman14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this relationship was in July and your now finding emails saying he loves being with you i would not worry about it he has obviously realized your the one for him. just love him and go with the flow.
2007-02-12 17:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang!
how many hints do u need?
uh huh he went way 2 far
u tell him grl
dont even bother asken him u no what he gonna say
2007-02-12 18:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIMPLE. GET THE H@#$ OFF HIS COMPUTOR!
YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO HIM YOU DO NOT BELONG GOING THROUGH ANYTHING OF HIS WITH OUT HIS PERMISSION. God I hate these untrusting sneaky women! Has he ever devoted his undying love to you for ever?! I DOUBT IT CAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS ASSUMING HE IS CHEATING!
2007-02-12 18:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by jbhard86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm let's see you said he loves you and blah blah blah but yet you find all these suspiciois things
and if you're smart you know gusy **** perbs and wouldn't be able to help themsleves tif they saw a hot girl
he's a guy....he has too much testerone..........what do you think???
2007-02-12 17:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by mamama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋