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my dad who's afghanistan keeps beeting my mom.
and sometomes me and even my 2 year old brother.
and my mom is too afraid to put him in jail because she "loves" him.
what should I and my mom do?
and he has been in prison back in russia wich is where im from.

2007-02-04 10:47:19 · 33 answers · asked by diana k 1 in Family & Relationships Family

33 answers

You NEED to go to the police ASAP, get a restraining order, etc... But DO NOT tell him where you are going, say you are going to get groceries or something like that... PLEASE, go get help, ASAP, you deserve better than him and you know it. So does your younger brother and your mom. PLEASE, PLEASE, sweetie, go to the police..PLEASE.. I'll pray for you...

2007-02-04 10:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kiara 5 · 3 0

nicely your gonna might want to be the only to end this, because obviously your mom isn't solid adequate. you want to rfile this to the police; do not call out of your position even with the actuality that, bypass to a pals or kinfolk and talk to from there. tell the police each and every thing that you could imagine off, and be very unique. they are going to %. him up and he will maximum likely spend the nighttime in penitentiary and could be released on bail with situations he attends anger administration and doesnt contact your mom until eventually he's sentenced. i'm no longer gonna deceive you, it truly is merely now problematical and opportunities are intense your Dad will blame you for destroying the kinfolk and your mom gained't be too overjoyed to. yet look at it this way; your saving her existence and contained in the destiny both your mom and your dad will be more effective off contained in the destiny. in case you do no longer something; this can merely worsen and your mom ok may be 6 feet below very quickly.

2016-11-02 08:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by andry 4 · 0 0

Well your mom is being selfish for not doing anything about this because she loves him, or supposedly loves him. I can't believe that she is letting this go on in front of you and your brother. It's sick and no child should have to watch or witness this kind of behavior.
You need to call the cops or call Child Protective Services. If you are uncomfortable with that, talk to someone close to you, or if you are in school, tell your teacher, principal, or counselor. They will be able to help you through this.
I hope that everything works out for you and your mom decides to get real and take the trash out. I'll be praying for you and I'll ask God to knock some sense into your mother.

2007-02-04 11:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0 0

First off, you did the right thing by saying something. You need to take action immediately, because if your dad is like most dads who beat up their wives, it will only get worse. I know it will be difficult, but you need to understand that no matter what, this is wrong. You should contact your local Domestic Violence Center and explain the situation to them. If you don't feel comfortable taking the matter into your own hands, you need to tell your school principal or trustworthy friend about this and have them take care of it. Please be careful and good luck.

2007-02-04 10:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Your mother is confused. Love doesn't hit or hurt. I feel sorry for the children. If she wants to stay and be abused, then its her perrogative. Call the child abuse hot line, or 911. You shouldn't be subjected to a insane moron's bad temper. He was in prison in Russia? I would guess it was from violence. Get out of there with your younger siblings. While there is a chance, and you aren't harmed too badly YET!!

2007-02-04 10:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I am so sorry for your pain, it is difficult for you and your mother. Your mother must be strong for you and your brother, and it sounds as if she is having a hard time doing that, no one should be hit, not ever, and you should know this now, that it is not normal for people to be abused by their spouse. She should leave your Dad and get out for you two kids. They have sheltered places in the United States for women, I am not sure where you live now, but I sure hope there is something available where you live.

2007-02-04 10:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0 0

You DO NOT have to put up with that. A family is about togetherness and protection, not abuse and pain. Try talking to a trusted friend about your problem (another family member, a teacher, a counselor). Your mother needs to stand up and protect you and your brother. This situation will not improve, and something needs to be done. Your father doesn't understand what family is about. His abusiveness is completely unacceptable. Please don't hesitate; I'm sure there are plenty of us answering this and we are very concerned for your saftey!

2007-02-04 10:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mudbug 2 · 0 0

I am shocked to hear that your mom is putting you, your brother, and herself in danger with an abusive man.

What you need to do, is call the police...911 that is. Men don't do this if they love their wife, They are suppose to respect them, not beat them! Don't wait anymore, you ALL are in danger. If you don't want to call the police, go to the nearest women's shelter, they will help you. Just hope you are in the USA, not in Afghanistan.

2007-02-04 10:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Find someone you trust and TELL them! The next time he beats ANY of you call the police/authority figure. These things do NOT get better over time-they get much worse.

You took the first step posting this, so I know that you are so brave. You can do this.

2007-02-04 12:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

go talk to a a priest, counselor ect...let them know what's going on...tell your mother when he's not there for the family to go into a shelter, into hiding, what he's doing is not LOVE, believe me I went through it and didn't leave because I thought I loved him, which I did, but, I knew it was not real love, it's hard to explain how she's feeling she loves him, but, it comes down to i think she is scared, so someone must be notified, and all of you need to get out before it's too late...I'm deaf thanks to that love...and have grown daughters in college, that still remember all of it..till this day, and it affects you emotionally, and you need to seek counseling all of you..but, for now, get them out, even if you mom decides to stay, you go and bring your brother with you to someone you can trust and even if she stays and they take you from them, you'll be far better off in the long run for saving yourself and your brother. good luck and be safe

2007-02-04 10:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Confused 3 · 0 0

u can go to a school counsel and tell them if you don't want to call the police, but your dad should not be hitting your mom. your mom may very well love him but it doesn't seem he loves her as much. She is no good to you and your brother if he hurts her bad, so it is necessary for someone to call the police before something real bad happens.

2007-02-04 10:55:03 · answer #11 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0 0

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