I've been dating this guy for about two months now, but been friends for about eight months. I understood that he has female friends. I told him if he never had anything going on with the female in the past, then I don't mind it. I trust him enough considering the fact that he lied to me twice.
As we was talking the other day he was telling me how, he and this girl been friends for four years. She's currently in a committed relationship and he's very close with her boyfriend...
Well, when he was talking to me yesterday, I realized how his face brightened up when he was talking about how he has always been there for her. And sometimes she would call him, and he would give her money. Also, how is his ex GFs had a problem with it. It's sort of making me think.
Besides the mother, I like to be first.
Of course I don't want to break their friendship, but i want to set boundaries. How can I do that without coming across as jealous?
2007-02-04 10:46:51 · 7 answers · asked by ATLCHI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-04 10:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, because you don't want to come across as psycho. I can tell you, the best thing is to try not to be jealous and be honest. Just tell him that you really don't mind him having his 'girl' friends...you are happy that he has so many friends...it shows what a great guy he is. But you also see that he really cares for this girl and it does cause you a little uneasiness. Tell him that you don't want to come across as jealous and maybe it would help if you got to know her a little better. Maybe if you had the chance to get to know her, you could feel more comfortable with it.
If he can't respect your honest, unjudgemental and caring opinion, then it's probably not going to work out in the end.
Good luck!
2007-02-04 18:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has an emotional attachment to this girl and if she's been friends with him longer then you have..he may defend their relationship if you talk to him about it. This is a tough one and I totally agree with you but I'm not sure this will turn out very well if you confront him or not.
2007-02-04 18:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be conserned. If he really loves you then you will be first in his life. He needs to break it off with her if its going to work with you. I have been here before and i know how that works. I would investigate this with all i am. He is giving her all that he could be giving you. She has a boyfriend so let her boyfriend take care of her.
2007-02-04 18:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by redfirecracker2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u have nothing to worry about and ur making a big deal out of nothing.
like u said,
she IS in a relationship with someone else,
they have been friends for FOUR years
and you two have only been dating 2 months.....
i bet u have friends that u are close with that are guys...
well my advice is if its not broken dont try to fix it....
2007-02-04 18:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by m V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him how you feel, but you shouldn't be jealous of a friend of his I believe all relationships should have male and female friends
2007-02-04 18:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should
2007-02-04 18:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋