I have a friend who went through watching her father abuse her mother physically, seeing her father getting drunk on a daily basis while her mother held down two jobs, but she sets a good example for her daughter. Her daughter is actually the result of the very first time she had sex; she was only 18. The father of her 16 year-old never took responsiblity, but she's a nurse, now.
2007-02-04 10:45:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What are you asking here? Rephrase your question and I'll edit my answer when you do.
2007-02-04 10:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the point to your question is that your friend's mother took up with a loser guy and then your friend did I think there could be two entirely different things going on when comparing your friend and her mother.
When kids have sex and end up having a baby it is very, very, common that the young man just not take responsbility in one way or another, even if they admit to being the father.
A girl who has sex for the first time at 18 isn't like a 12-year-old who has inappropriate ideas about sex or behavior.
I don't think the two "loser guys" were necessarily the same, and I don't think your friend repeated her mother's mistake based only on what you've said. I think your friend made her own variety of a mistake as a teenager - and what teenager doesn't make one mistake or another.
With regard to the abusive situation your friend watched/lived with as a child: People either don't understand why their mother takes that and grow up vowing never, ever, to be in that situation; or else they model themselves after their mother and end up in the situation. It depends on the kid and how impressed or unimpressed she was at how her mother dealt with the guy.
2007-02-04 10:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people repeat it when they are scarred by it without seeing the root of why the parent is that way. Usually the abuse is from low self-esteem, insecurity or anger. If a person doesn't deal with that in their life, then they can easily repeat their parents mistakes by releasing it the only way they were taught.
2007-02-04 12:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by eleven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always, but, usually, that's all they have grown up knowing...but, if they feel they are making the same mistakes their parents did, go see a counselor or someone to that extent and break the cycle...someone has to break the cycle, and the sooner the better.
2007-02-04 10:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋