Help..........problems with EX?

Question

Well my boyfriend broke up with me last friday and i thought that everything would be fine afterwards. I didn't think that we would be friends after but i thought we could still talk and be friendly. I was never really good friends with his friends. Well a couple of days after we broke up he and his friends started a whole bunch of rumors and they keep calling me and are saying horrible things. I don't know why i keep answering but i do and they are doing anything they possibly can to make my life horrible. I can't avoid him or his friends because they are in like all of my classes and my friends are friends with them. So what should i do? life is really bad right now and i just wish that they would all leave me alone or at least try not to make fun of me and say all the horrible things that they are. what should i do?

Answer 1

make fun of them back.make rumors about them.

Answer 2

I to had a problem just like yours and I had to switch schools twice. What I suggest is a two fold. First, have a conferences with him and his family, you and your family and your teachers. Make it completely clear that if it doesn't stop that harassment charges will need to be filled against him and his friends. This is the but kicker to make it happen though, and complaint letters will be written for every one of the teachers and/or staff that was at that conference.

Answer 3

You should find your bf and ask to talk to him alone. When he is alone and not surrounded by his friends he wont act like a jerk so it will be better that way. Tell him you cant believe that he is doing all this crap to you right now. Tell him you want him to stop doing it because its really hurting you. Just tell him that its pathetic hes doing all of this and that his immature of doing it.

Answer 4

Tell them to Grow Up. No wonder you broke up with him, his friends speak for him. If it continues at school, speak with the school counselor and ask them to speak to him and his friends to get them off your back. If they get in trouble at school, it could wreck their social life. Have you spoke to your father, perhaps he could answer the phone? I would sit down with my father and say the magic words,"Dad, I really need your advise" Any real father just waits for moments like these. I'll bet he can straighten this out in no time.Good Luck

Answer 5

Have you told your parents, or the other thing is you need to tell the guidance counselor at school. This is very childish, what they are doing. Try and ignore them. Tell them if this does not stop, you are going to report them, and do it. Their is no reason they should be doing this to you! And go to the principal at school. I hope this all works out for you!

Answer 6

you know what, i think that if this goes any farther you have to tell your parents because then it turns into harassment. anyways, why haven't your friends helped defend you or something? they seem a little shady. other than that i do not know what you need to do except tell him and his friends in a stern voice that they need to just leave you alone because there is no need for that. i mean you did not do anything to deserve that.

Answer 7

The real thing is is that he is only doing this to you because he is guilty for breaking up with you. See if you didnt do anything wrong and you are trying to move on and not sweating him or trying to kiss his butt then he is trying to see what he can do to make you tick and his friends are just an influence because he is confused and just doesnt know what to do. see one thing that you have to realize is that when people do you wrong and you try to do the civil thing they just dont act right. I cant say ignore him because it seems that you still have feelings and strong feelings at that for him and you are just in a state of what went wrong right now. Also i would not tell you do the same things to him that he is doing to you because you just dont seem like that type of person at least from what i read. The best thing that i can say is kill him with kindness and a new boyfriend. What do i mean by kill him with kindness you ask, well i know that from my experience this is the best thing that works. That does not mean take and eat every mean thing that he does to you. But it means to gird up your loins and show him that whatever he does to you does not hurt you. Also, another thing would be to be around people that appreciate you as a person. Because if your friends hang out with his friends and they know that your ex is spreading rumors about you then to be honest they are no better than your ex. I could be wrong but i have always been the type to believe that friends stand up for what is right and good in a person and they dont entertain foolish pranks and rumors and i know that you do not want to tell your friends to choose your or him but you dont have to do that if you just gravitate away from them not saying be nasty or not be their friend but just saying demote them. just like in the military. instead of being friend be associate. Associate does not have the access to you as friends do. That means when you have a problem with your ex talk to your mom and tell her how you feel that may sound like a big HELL No but i promise you it will make you feel better and it can make your mom more of a friend to you than those that listen to the hype. Also i am sure that you are a pretty girl so you can find you someone else and then when your ex think that you will come crawling back to him you just kindly walk past him in the hallway or when you are in class and he makes a joke about you you laugh right along with him and say something witty right back. You see you always have to keep his mind saying damn i missed out on a good thing. Tell less to your friends and keep your secrets to yourself believe me your so called friends may be the key culprits behind the rumors. Oh and dont think that friends wont do such things because they do. They steal boyfriends spread rumors and stab you just as hard. So keep your eyes open and your heart closed. You cant be too trusting and from what i have read i believe that you are. Keep to your self that does not mean become a social caveman but it just means always be careful of what you say around your friends because they can give that information back to his friends. And trust me when i tell you that no one can repeat the same thing to someone else the same way that they hear it the first time. People always add to and take from just to make themselves look good. Confide in your self and just do your best to stay focused and dont let him get you down see he probably cheated on you or something and REMEMBER people who talk about you are always thinking about you. Its true. AND ALSO REMEMBER it is their own insecurities and they are just trying to make you look bad and people who never have nothing nice to say and are always looking down on others are not getting enough attention from home. So just keep your head up you are a smart girl, and always tell yourself every moment of everyday I am Unique I am proud of Me, I am Beautiful and I dont need anyone To define me.
Good luck and God Bless. And P.S. If they are doing things to physically harm you go to an administrator in school and trust me talk to your parents about things they can help you sort through things. Be classy about the rumors and if you know that those things are not true dont beat yourself up and you can look on the inside of you and know that people are going to say mean things about you reguardless so dont kiss no butt on anyone

Answer 8

if he wants to stoop that low as to causing problems and starting rumor. tell his friends all the romantic sissy things that he did for you, yet wouldn't want his friends to know because that wouldn't be manly. Don't stoop to his level though and make stuff up.

Answer 9

It will blow over in time, just don't give him any more ammo to play with. Ignore him, that will bug him more, and next time they make comments, just say yeah, you're right, and leave it at that. They will get bored eventually.

Answer 10

Try to ignore him he will get the message that his silly behavour is not annoying you. If you let him see that it is annoying you him and his silly friends will keep doing it. They will get bored soon and stop.