my boyfriend and i have been together 7 months...and i really like him and i wanna give it up to him-but i am a virgin-and i dont know what to expect or even what to do...any suggestions?
2007-02-04 10:22:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How old are you? I think if you are old enough (18 or so) then good on you for waiting this long to make sure that he is the one you want to give this to. Do you love him though? I waited 8 months with my boyfriend, another 4 months after we had both said I love you, and we have been together now for 3 1/2 years.
It will hurt a bit the first time and your boyfriend should understand this and be gentle with you. Also he should be understanding if you can't finish or want to stop because it hurts. He should stop as soon as you say. Make sure you have plenty of foreplay and maybe use some extra lube to make things easier for yourself. Start off nice and slow in a simple position (e.g. missionary - especially if he knows what he is doing).
Make sure that you are doing this because you want to... not because he is pressuring you! Good luck (that sounds like a weird thing to say but oh well!)
And one more thing.... For gods sake use protection!!! You can get pregnant and stds on your first go!! A few weeks before you plan on doing this (you might want to plan it so its romantic) see your doctor and go on the pill. Use condoms as well, they are the only protection against stds. BE SAFE!!!! I really hope you are older than 16 too, prefereably over 18 like i said. You really are not ready before this age
2007-02-04 10:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...you really need to think this through. A 7 month relationship is what your willing to give the one thing that you can never get back. How well do you know your b-friend? What do you think you are going to feel when you break up..and if you think that you will still be together years from now..you should have a conversation with an adult or even your friends and find out how many of them are with the person they lost there virginity too..I bet this will suprize you!
2007-02-04 10:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so being pregnant isn't the absolute best thing in the world, but consider all the other possibilities like contracting an STD. 7 months isn't even long enough to state that you have THE relationship to begin something like this unless you have no morals whatsoever. If you're financially loaded, then I guess you could if you wanted to. Your parents are likely to lose trust in you and some choose not to support their child nor their child's child. There is a possibility that the boyfriend could drop you like that, and this occurs frequently.
Sex isn't everything. Sex is just and overall used as a source of pleasure. Most people who undergo sex and aren't mentally ready, find themselves hurt physically, mentally, financially, and spiritually afterwards.
There are sooooooooo many things that you two could share that could be of more value and special that doesn't involve sex. I promise. If you love him that much, and he loves you THAT much, than you'd wait. That would prove that amount of love you two shared.
2007-02-04 10:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait a little longer at least a year. then sit down and look at the facts. know what types of things can happen if you have sex. Learn a little about STD's and what to do to keep your self protect from that and getting pregnat. then you and your partner should get tested for HIV. 1 in 4 people have HIV but most dont know it. Once you feel comfortable with the knowledge you have learned. When you decided to have sex make sure to use a condom. take it easy and have him be gentle it may hurt at first. but make sure your are 100% ready.
2007-02-04 10:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate saying this..i know it sounds annoying but truth is if you don't know what to do then you kinda aren't ready. in my honest opion i think you should wait until you've been with him for a year. whats the hurry? by then you'll really know if you LOVE him not like him. but if you wanna do it anyway at least be smart and use protection. try to stay pure as long as you can. theres other ways to show intimacy. sex can seriously change a relationship. it can make it worse (which is usually the case in highschool) or it can make it better.
good luck :]
2007-02-04 10:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls feel the way you do. And I'm gonna share something us girls realized later: it's better to wait for the right person preferably after marriage. It makes it all the more special since it's your first. Make it special by waiting for the right guy. It's gonna be a lot sweeter if both are virgins.
2007-02-04 10:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can expect is an unwanted pregnancy and a long gone boyfriend.
Why do you want to have sex now? Do you think it will cause him to feel closer to you? It won't. Are you curious about the act? Rent a R rated movie.
If you do decide to sleep with him, make sure you use protection. Do NOT depend on him.
2007-02-04 10:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you have been dating for 7 months... and still virgin better wait so you can know what to expect, and what to do in case you get pregnant!!
2007-02-04 10:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Marquel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it happen naturally,it will hurt a little but it worth it ,one more thing once you do it you get addicted to it so think about it and the consequences of sex,good luck
2007-02-04 10:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound young. wait until you are old enough to have responsibility for actions (diseases, pregnancy, and others).
2007-02-04 10:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋