I was with my boyfriend for a year. We met at work. We dated for 2 months, then he got a new job. A new job that allowed him to travel. So he picked up & Left, but we still talked even thought it was long distance. After talking with him everyday for about a month he sent me a plane ticket to come visit. It was great, after I left, we kept talking daily. I went back about two months later and stayed for about a month. We fell in love, and it was very mutual. Are relationship has been a little long distance, but now he's been back home. he's been back 3 months, well two months ago, he felt like we needed time apart, and space to grow away from each other, so we broke up. We continued to see each other. WE'd go out to eat everynight, go to the gym 3 times a week, and hangout on the weeks, sex included. Now I'm pregnant, and he still doesn't want to be me, but wants to be there for the baby. He say his feeling s have changed for me, but I still love him, should I let'em go?
2007-02-04
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Yes for the kid
2007-02-04 10:26:05
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answered by Baby girl 101 2
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although you do it, you should do it quickly. Wait till you're on my own together with her and comprehend that she isn't gazing for everyone to drop in or telephone, then tell her you're extremely sorry..no matter if you imagine that you're not to any extent further..yet that you're pregnant and that you've been attempting to detect a sturdy thanks to inform her in common words there is not any longer one and in case you do not tell her now she will be in a position of quickly see it for herself. she should not be delighted so do not get protecting about it,,even as the time comes that your newborn is fifteen you'll comprehend your mom's thoughts and till then you truly could a minimum of appreciate them. no a possibility rigidity you to do or no longer do some thing about this being pregnant, the alternative is yours; yet when your boyfriend is over 16 then he has damaged the regulation and also you both comprehend it, so both truly one of you need to be prepared for some criticism. After that ..nicely, moms have a tendency to react in enormously once they have their heads around the data, what they'll continually react badly to is being saved interior the darkish even as that is taken under consideration necessary that they ought to no longer be. the finest of luck.
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answered by wehrly 4
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If he says his feelings have changed then you obviously cannot force him to be with you. Unfortunately, this is how it is, we cannot change certain circumstances.
The best thing you can do is let him go. The fact that there is a child on its way is not the best circumstances a break up can end in but you just keep your head up and accept any support he gives you.
You should keep it in mind that 'time apart' should not include going out together, going to the gym and especially having sex.
2007-02-04 10:31:29
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answered by lily54 2
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Yep, let him go. Let him be financially responsible for the child you both made, but let his sorry @ss go. He appears to be extremely childish and self centered. You dont want that in your life nor your childs life. It would never work, and you would end up miserable.
Find a man who is willing to be an adult and give you the relationship you deserve. You need not think about him any longer. Focus on your child and being healthy. Once the baby gets here, take him to court and get child support and visitation arranged. Once you are on your feet and in a routine, then possibly think about opening up your life and allowing someone to share it with you.
Be careful though, its not just you your're thinking about now. Pick a mature man with integrity to share your and your childs life.
You definately dont need a loser like he has proven to be.
Good luck hun.
And congrats!!!!!!:)
2007-02-04 10:29:25
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answered by Truth Teller 5
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sorry love i think u already no the answer u will never be happy families why settle on someone that doesnt love u only the baby he can still a big part of ur life with the baby but dont push him he needs to do it on his own by the sound sof it ur a strong women and u will need to be strong not just for u but for ur babys health and good luck to u
2007-02-04 10:26:24
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answered by bigbreastedbitch1979 2
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if he want to be there for the baby let him . put your feeling aside for the baby. when every thing is cool in a mouth or two think about the way u feel about him. think about what has gone wrong in your relationship.if u are still in love with him ask him why cant he love u and what went wrong. the main thing is that u must talk for the baby .
2007-02-04 10:35:08
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answered by tibit 2
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If he definately doesn't want to stay together then you should let him go. Staying together just for the child isn't good and can lead to ill feeling later in life. If he is willing to help out with your child be happy with that and find someone who does want to be with you.
2007-02-04 10:28:26
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answered by Anonymous
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If he dosn't love you, let him take the baby.And you should pay child support.And Word from the Wise- Don't have sex before marriage.Anything could happen.And not all boyfriends are as supportive as him to even think of the baby, and not leave you out to dry.
2007-02-04 10:28:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Be friendly but don't let him know you are hot and heavy. Get a new guy pronto to make him jealous. Someone if possible taller, handsomer and act very happy but busy. I guess this plan is kind of hard if you are pregnant...
2007-02-04 10:27:12
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answered by Anonymous
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talking from experience and being an older and wiser woman...
sounds like you just want to be with him coz youre pregnant. dont ever just want to be someone coz you have they baby in your bellie. you can do just fine without them. march forward sweetie.. stay focused coz now there's 2 of you to worry about....
and the best will always come your way.
i wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy!!
2007-02-04 10:27:39
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answered by short fat white girl 3
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yes you do, you don't have to be with your baby father in order for to raise him. and just cause your not together that don't mean he don't wanna see is child when it comes or be there 4 him
2007-02-04 10:34:10
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answered by Anonymous
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