2007-02-04 10:20:39 · 13 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
it happened to my sister. here is what my dad did... he opened the door and saw them and told my mom go get the oak stick, and started to spank my sister and also hit the spot like her mouth, boobs or anywhere the guy touched with his stick made the boyfriend watch it... scary but she NEVER ever did it again
2007-02-04 10:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Handsome 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
This is normal and expected at her age. Of course you should be concerned and upset but you eed to gently have a converation with her so that she underdstands her boundaries. Create rules. No boys when I am not home. No boys anywhere other than the living room and dining room. Also have a talk to her about safe sex, prganancy and STD's, including most importantly respecting herself, respecting the beauty of sex, and making sure she really had a good relationship with someone before sex occurs. Making out is normal, is not serious and will occur. You daughter will also have sex. Freaking out about it will not helop the situation and will send her running to someone for comfort (making sex and making out even more likely). What will help her is giving her respect for sex and her body, giving her boudaries she knows how to follow, and giving her the freedom to talk to you and develope rules for herself (like I will wait X amount of time before sex, I will wait until X age, I will wait until the realtionship feels comfortable and respectful and solid) so she knows how to look for and develope a good relationship to sex and not just... wait until mom is not looking or do when you can sneak it. This is the most important time for you and your daughter in your relationship because this is the ime tp teac her how to be mature and knowledgable and responsible so that she can start to develope a good relatonship wth sex which will give her pleasure for ears to come and allow her to stay away from the pitfalls of using sex to liked and having accidents like preganacy and poor choices in partners occur by sneaking and hiding it. Make sure you tell her you love her and terefore want to help her make great choices and not just yell at her when she gets caught.
2007-02-04 18:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by drjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm angry right now, just thinking of it! That's serious - boy in the house with no supervision, and utter disrespect for you, your home and your personal space.
The making out is a normal thing for kids this age, but it's scary to think they were alone and what might have progressed if you hadn't shown up. It's time for a punishment and a big, long talk. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-04 18:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like she is about that age that things like that starts to happen first should not be alone.... should be talk with about what should or should not happen... safe sex and birth control a must. because no matter what you do if she wants to get busy she will.... protect her with the pill... and teact her all guys want is a lay not love and that she is to young for a kid... you have to talk and do it now dont be mad that she wants be mad that she was going behind your back ... so no guys in the house without you there and never in her room any time....
2007-02-04 18:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by infoman89032 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if she has no respect for you. Sounds as if you need to be involved in her little 14 y/o life a bit more. Just my thoughts.
2007-02-04 22:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably ground her for a very long time, no phone, no tv, no going out and I would embarass the h*ll out of her with that guy.
2007-02-04 18:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by cynthia10415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean a guy..then yeah i wouldn't be too happy about that. Sounds like you need to set some majoe rules and boundaries for her. Talk to her about teenage pregnancy and maybe get some birthcontrol.
2007-02-04 18:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IRATE! there is absolutely no reason that my daughter should even be in my room or have a boy over without my being home.
2007-02-04 18:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first I would think What have I done wrong
then I would talk to her and make it clear that she is toooooooo young for this things
2007-02-04 19:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ground her for life! j/k but i would have a long, long, long, long talk with her about were she wants to end up in life... She would definetly get in trouble!
2007-02-04 18:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Novak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋