It's already been a month since the baby was born, but my nephew doesn't seem to adapt. He's unbearable at home, pushes his parents to their limits, and has stopped working at school. Any advice, other than what she's been told already (reassure him that you still love him, and involve him with taking care of the baby - she's been doing it but with no results)?
2007-02-04 10:20:18 · 5 answers · asked by Gertrude G. 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
this usually happens no matter what,when each new baby is bought home,you musn't worry about the older child,he will adjust with time as long as your giving them the attention and love they need,you cannot feel bad and you must scold them as before or they will take advantage and continue to push.maybe you or dad could take them out for some alone time together even if just to grandparents or the store,it will give them a break from the baby.when they return ,they can be told how much you and the baby missed them.i wish your sister luck!
2007-02-04 11:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question is this the first baby since your nephew? if it is he knows he's not the baby anymore. The best thing is to reassure him that they still love him and involve him with baths and diaper changes. If hes not interested take him to the park or a movie without the baby being there this will let him know they still care and that they are willing to do things with him. as the baby gets older and can play alot more your nephew will be excited cuse than he will have someone to play with. good luck.
2007-02-04 10:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Momof4beautifulGirls! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur sis shoul dtell her son that beacuse she has a new kid this doesnt mean that she doesnt love her son as much.
n she sound tell him how hes acting , she doesnt like. and i think wat he wants is extra n she shouldnt treat him any diff then she was b4.
wen the baby wasnt here.
n she should punish him if he does something rong like if he throws food around she shuld put him in tyme out. meaning she shouldnt dis miss the behaviour as sympathy for the child.
he he notices that mom and dads beahviour didint change since the baby he relize hopefully that his parents love him the same no mater who comes and that he will get punished for bad behaviour. also wen u talk 2 him make sure u arent looking down on him but get on ur knees and have eye level with him . this shows that you respect him as an individual and that your pride isnt gettin in our way. and that your all ears for wat he thinks . but dont change the way u were b4 the new baby this shows thast your weak and that he can get away wit anything. tell him that now he needs to share his tyme wit mum and dad wit the baby. tell him that if he was the baby would he want mom and dad to pay attention only/ more to the other kid? no so explain to him thats why they have 2 sahre the tyme that no 1 is more important to them. bu tu luv them the same
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-04 10:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by Leila A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have someone watch the baby and have your sister and the 5 year old go out and do something just those two. maybe like once a month or once a week or something
2007-02-04 11:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by icangels92691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should spend one on one time with the older child. Worse case senario consult a behaviour therapist. They can give her advise on different ways to manage his behaviour.
2007-02-04 11:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋