I'm 15, cut and injure myself (mainly cutting), and often have suicidal thoughts and tendencies. I also have a lot of anger in me, and fight with my dad a lot. And when I say fights, I mean like arguments over the stupidest of things. There is no emotional abuse (a form of child abuse) because the fights are kind of split by who starts them.
For a little while now, I've been wanting to get better, but because I'm not in driver's ed yet and don't have a car, I can't really get any counseling (though I would probably have a hard time talking to someone else about this stuff face to face), or get any medication for it. Also, I'm not sure how I could even get any of that since a bill would probably be sent to my home or be put on my dad's account or bill or whatever at the doctors.
Is there anything I can do to help myself without my dad knowing?
The reason I don't want my dad to find out is because (as anyone who has gone through this could tell you), it's really hard to tell someone (like family) about stuff like this. That, and also because of his reaction. As I have said, we don't really have good communication because he doesn't really understand anything.
2007-02-04 10:13:19 · 9 answers · asked by George 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My parents are divorced and I only started living with my dad since the beginning of my freshman year. Also, even though I have no reason to, I am afraid to tell my mom.
2007-02-04 10:24:03 · update #1
Ewe...yeah, adults are hard to trust when you're a kid..especially since they pretty much have legal control of everything that concerns you.
Read the book of Proverbs in the Bible.
It's the easiest one to understand, plus if you take it more literally than figuratively it will tell you what to do about anything in life.
You can do it alone, and even if your dad finds out what can he say about a kid reading a Bible.
However, you DO need to see a psychiatrist so that you can be diagnosed and that way if you do need medicine you will have it.
It seems like your school counselor would be able to arrange that for you without telling your parents? I don't know their rules of confidentiality.
You're right, it sux being a teenager. I'm glad I'm not 15 anymore! it gets better so don't kill yourself. RESIST THE URGE!! and the cutting thing my best friend used to do. That is likely an endorphine thing that you can get another way...like exercise. Get all big and cut and then your dad might not start so many fights...good luck and hang in there....don't die 'cause you'll miss your twenties and.....your twenties ROCK!
2007-02-04 10:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by AuntTater 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak with the counselor or psychologist from your school. Tell them exactly the situation. I am 53 years old with chronic depression and my 3 kids (all grow up and married) do not want to know nothing about me. So I have a mental health provider, teraphy,medicines and a lot of people that love me and understand my situation, which is nothing different than a diabetes or a cholesterol, but it is an illness that little near family members understand. Because for them is better to ignore it.
2007-02-04 10:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by rbeblu 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really need to seek help as it seems you already made the first step by asking for help on here. Thats a great start!
Try to google search for a teenage hotline in your area?
The best thing is to try tell one parent or both or a relative or walk right into a hospital- They won't turn you away. These things happen and a lot of people are willing to help such as all the answers you got on here. I have a brother who committed suicide. You made this step so PLEASE don't wait and seek help
Don't be afraid- You nothing to hide or be ashamed of
Good luck to you.
2007-02-04 10:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Since you're 15, I don't recommend that you try to keep this from him, and I highly doubt that you could if you tried. but it's important that he does know, maybe he would understand, maybe not, but don't let it stop you from seeking help. You would most likely need his insurance to get the help that you need. You could ask for counseling from a church, but guess what they would tell you to do...talk to your father,after all, you are his son, and if I were a betting man, I'd put money on him wanting you to get the proper help. Good luck, you can do it.
2007-02-04 10:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have any kind of a hospital close by you, walk there or find a simple bus route there. im sure if you ask them they can help you. in your case, i think finding an emergency room would be good because they could direct you right away [because they are always so pressed for time] to a place you need.
and when you do get referred to someone, make sure you tell them you would like for it all to be free of charge. they wont laugh, theyll really understand because no ones alone in this situation. they have helped people like you by the thousands [my moms a nurse at one.]
i hope you can take this advice and achieve. :]
2007-02-04 10:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by lilanizzle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that would be kinda hard to do since you are only 15, umm let your mom and tell her not to say anything to your father. why don't you want your dad to know? he would be concerned and if he knew that you are suicidal he would get you help, even though you guys fight a lot he loves you and wants the best for you. if none of that works they talk to people online about your feelings.
2007-02-04 10:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a tough situation. I have been on antidepressants for a few years now and my father still doesn't know. It took me a long time to get up the courage to talk to my mother about it. And even longer to get to the doctors. Maybe try another close relative. They may be understanding enough and get you to the doctor. Medication was definitely my savor, along with Jesus. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-04 10:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Horsetrainer89 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you really want to get rid of your depression... get a journal, and write out all your aggressions... if you can cry, in privacy, or have a friend who can understand you, let it out...
write and get this stuff out of your head and on paper, and you will feel way better
it is a start...
p.s. i am 31 and have been journaling for many years,and it is a great way to deal
2007-02-04 10:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by darkshadow300200 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's your family that will be there to help you through this, he needs to know so you can get professional help,tell your counselor and see if they can help,thats what they are there for!
2007-02-04 10:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋