Our 12yr old daughter thinks we hate her and wants to run away. All because we took her stuffed dog away for a day or less. she was told to leave her stuff in her room while she watched TV in the living room.
now we "are mean and we hate her." all this because we took her toy away. every time we tell her NOT to do something and she does it anyways,...she is shocked when she gets in trouble. we are not overly stricked. however we expect her to do as she is told and except the trouble she gets in if she chooses to ignor us.
now we "dont care about her." she is always freaking out about everything. everything is a tragity and she acts like she will fall down and die from it all.
nothing is ever good enough. no matter what we do for her...theres always something else she wants.
2007-02-04 09:50:28 · 12 answers · asked by EMMAS' CUTE_NESS 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Shakespeare said it best
"Oh how sharper than a serpents tooth is that of an ungrateful daughter!"
2007-02-04 10:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by double_klicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I was 12 and I was the same way. I wish I wasn't though. She will grow out of if. But keep on doing what you are doing now. She may say this kind of stuff but she really doesn't mean it. I ran away once and it hurt me more than it did my parents. It was a very stupid thing to do and after that I never did it again or talked back to my parents. Just sit down and talk to her. It really is the best thing to do even if she doesn't want to listen. Let her talk and let her get things out in the open. By doing so, she will feel better and may trust you more and come talk to you more often. Don't over react to the things she may say that is what she wants. If you just sit down and calmly talk to her and really listen things will get better. But you are doing the best you can do. Don't let her get to you and make you think that you are a bad mother. That will just make things worse. Make sure she knows you understand what she is going through because most of everyone has gone through this stage. But the good thing is she will get over it and grow out of it. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-02-04 10:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by p0pad0t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sign up for some serious parenting classes for teenagers or in a few short years you are going to be in major trouble. You obviously have been indulging her too much and not following through with punishments. If she is still getting to you by pulling this kind of stuff at twelve, she will really have you confused at 15 or 16. And you are not doing her any favors by spoiling her.
2007-02-04 12:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort of sounds like you may have a " drama queen" on your hands!! Just think back to when you were the same age-if you can't remember then call your mom I'M sure she will remember and GLADLY share the memories w/ you!!! Plus she will be smiling cause parents always hope thier children will have children who act the same way their child did!! Confusing??? It is but I think you will know what I mean! I agree with almost everyone else!Don't give into her fits or you will have more serious trouble layter!
2007-02-04 10:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, she's typical. And it's going to get worse before it gets better. Keep on punishing her whenever she disobeys - don't give up. First, her 'when you do the crime, you do the time'. Tell her that parents do not have to buy their children things to entertain them, including pets. And they do not have to give them allowance. Parents have to: provide food, a shelter, and some clothes, and schooling. They don't know how lucky they are. Parents should also provide consistent discipline and love. I hope it's not too late, for you. You should also tell her all the bad things that can happen to a child when a child runs away.
2007-02-04 10:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by scaredeycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think when you were 12.
Every child hates there parents then.
It's just part of growing up. And besides, after quite awhile being forced to stay with the same person for 18 years would be quite annoying.
2007-02-04 10:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She 12 and believe me I do believe you are not a strict parent, mostly all kids in this day and age behave this way. because they are use to it, she probably got everything she wanted when she was a toddler and it was a patteren and not you but she the one going into shock I believe it...
2007-02-04 10:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by birdsdafly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter is getting to that age. "drama queen" just wait till she hits her teens. I have a 15 yr old son and a 16 yr old daughter. Talk about ungrateful.
2007-02-04 11:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your fault. It starts at birth. She most likely has gotten her way from acting this way in the past. Cut off the giving and she'll change her tune.
2007-02-04 12:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of us do. Give her a couple of years and see how bad it gets.
2007-02-04 09:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋