Multiple questions for Christians concerning: death, trauma, people in afterlife, communication.?

Question

Why did God take my mother so soon before I knew what was happening?
Have any of you ever had serious doubts or a shaking of your faith about the after life after trauma or death?
After becoming Christian: Any of u felt lost, not knowing what 2 do, sickened in the stomach, gut wrenching agony after seeing a deceased loved 1 in very terrible shape. For how long (when does the sickness go away)? And how did you cope?
Can we really feel or have visions (while awake) of people looking down on us from heaven or do we miss them so badly our mind just makes up something? If they are present with the Lord, can they communicate with us at all (like Jesus talking with a couple "dead" guys in transfiguration)?
What is the deal with having dreams or nightmares involving loved ones who have passed?
How 2 get over someone who dies suddenly & you never saw it or didn't want to see it coming? Do you ever really get over losing a parent or child or both?
How 2 face one's own death if saved?

Answer 1

God did not take your mother. Your mother went to Him, because the sickness would never go away. If you did not know what was happening it may be because your mother tried to spare you. She, herself, could not not deal with you not coping about her situation so you were kept in the dark until it happened. The trauma of death is only bestowed on the living. If somebody you love dies, somebody close to you, you miss them so much that you cannot cope because they leave a big hole in your life.
You can indeed, communicate with your mother, just after she went to the other realm. Just be perceptive and reject any misconceptions about after-live communications. I know from my own experience that this is not only possible but real. You will feel it in your heart, just do not be surprised by it. It is quite normal if you are willing to listen.
You will never get over losing a loved because you are not supposed to. She will be with you the rest of your like. Always there, always watching over you.
Really, it is the living ones having a hard time. The dead one are just enjoying the serenity of the voyage.

Answer 2

Sometimes it is comforting to say God took someone when they die. Some people find that comforting some do not. However such a statement usually cuts the person off from the only source of comfort in these situations. The first thing to remember is you did not do anything wrong. Your situation is not some bizarre punishment from God. Your mother’s death is not about you. The second thing to consider is death is not a decree of God it is the effect of things that happen in our reality and things that have happened in the past. Death is a result not a punishment.

Now to the source of comfort. If you can understand that The Creator of all things did not do something to you and the death is not a punishment for something you did or did not do, then you can ask that Spirit for help in dealing with your tragedy. You will never forget your mother and therefore never “get over” her death but you can come to cope with your situation and live on.

My mother is dead and I have not forgotten her. Occasionally I think she prays for me and her prayers have meaning to God just as they did when she lived here in this reality. (Perhaps even more meaning now) I don’t think I see her but for several years I felt her presence and almost expected to see her walk into the room. Occasionally (less now) I hear her call me especially at night just before going to sleep. Not with my ears actually with my feelings (mind).

Hang in there it will get better. Don’t loose faith.

Answer 3

i thought the same things when my cousin was killed by a drunk driver .I have come to believe that maybe God wanted to preserve my cousin at his best moment rather than let him live longer and then maybe he would stray away from the truth.From counseling i learned that having nightmares of dead loved ones is a way your body tries to rid those hurtful things and pain you have experienced.About communication with the dead that is impossible unless you go into Spiritualism and that is satanic.When a person dies they are buried and after a while they become dust.They are dead and have no feelings and cannot come to haunt you in the form of a ghost.Ghosts are tricks satan uses to fool us into believing dead people still roam the earth.They remain dead and do not go to heaven until Jesus Second Coming.Some of the only people who died and went to heaven are enoch and Moses.Dead people are like sleeping forever waiting for Jesus to come back to this earth.

Answer 4

Everyone has doubts from time to time.

It's OK to be angry, shake your fist at God when you pray, He can handle it, then try to be still and listen.

Nightmares are from anxiety. Some visions and feelings may be the counselor and comforter that is commonly called the Holy Spirit.

I had one of those weird near death experiences, so I firmly believe in an afterlife. I saw nothing like fire and brimstone, Just warm, bright Love and concern. We can disappoint God, but He'll always love us. So, your mother is safe with God.

Finally, that saying that "Time heals all wounds" is foolishness. Time just teaches you that life goes on even when you think you can't possibly keep going. And then, it gets easier somehow, not healed, exactly, but easier. God and prayer helps that.

We'll be praying for you, too.

Answer 5

I share your pain of loss.

I lost my wife of 20 years to cancer. Then the next year my only living sister died. Then 6 months later my mother died. In between their deaths I got hit by a car and survived. And now I am the one only left of my family.

Those incidents happene so I could tell you, not to give up hope or give into anger or bittterness.

Did my faith in God get shook up? No. But I've walked with the Lord for four decades so I have a more years then you. So don't worry.

But I did weep and cry more inside. I suffered. But then I remembered Christ is acquainted with all grief and suffering. See Isaiah 53:3

You know that wonderful poem of "footprints on the sand"? You know the writer tells us a dream that Jesus and he were walking side by side. And they reviewed his life and where he had the worst times in his life, Christ told him that he was carrying the writer. Remember that one? I put the link below if you forgot it.

He got it partially right. When my wife was dying of cancer and I'd hear her sing this song of pain. I'd say God please be with her and she'd answer God is with me. It was after she died that I realized this truth. While I was taking care of her, I was taking care of Christ who was suffering in my wife's body. And my wife, well I was Christ taking care of her, when she was suffering.

The footprints on the sand were Christ's only inside the writer.

And Jesus is inside you suffering. You are not alone. Trust me. My prayers are with you. The significance of dreams I believe are to encourage you. They did for me. But I still have painful moments. I think that's what are ghosts are sometimes. They visit you so just let the memories pass through you. I remember when was younger. At the beach I'd wade into the water and let a big wave come while I stood there. It would spash against me and lift me up and then set me back down. That's how those memories affect me now. Go them and remember then and let them go.

I hope this heps. God bless you.

Answer 6

I lost my mom when I was 14. She was sick but I never thought she would die. She was my mommy and I was the youngest in the family-the baby.My mom would never leave me! I was in total denial. At her deathbed she asked for me and I went reluctantly.All I remember is she was in an oxygen tent[this was in the 60's].I guess this kind of upset me because I had never seen her this sick before.She kidded me for not coming to see her sooner. I smiled at her and rushed out of her room. The next morning my brother woke me up and told me she had died. I was numb. I couldn't feel nothing. I don't think I blamed God I blamed her for leaving me.I think if they had grief counseling back then I would have saved myself a lot of heartache throughout my life.Now looking back on that experience,I think it helped me grow as a person. What's the saying"What doesn't break you makes you stronger". God has a reason for everything and if you can figure it out you will find your purpose in life. LET GO AND LET GOD.

Answer 7

First of all Deva, I'm sorry for your pain. If you are young I imagine it's very hard to loose a parent. When we are older we expect it more.
I dreamed of my father after he passed for awhile. One of the last dreams I had he came to me and said, "I love you but I have to go now, we will all be together some day and it will be a joyous reunion." I don't use the word Joyous, ever! After that I didn't dream about him.
The bible says there's a time to be born and a time to die. Why some so soon I don't know. Is it God's will? I don't know that either. I do know God loves you and wants to give you comfort. Pray to him.
Time will help you get over death of a loved one, It really does. We don't or shouldn't talk to the dead. The bible says there's a barrier and we can't communicate with them. And they don't look down on us either. Would that be heaven? To see your loved ones make mistakes? Demon's will pretend to be our loved ones if we seek them out.

I can face my own death knowing, "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord." So when I die I'll be in paradise. Jesus told the man on the cross, today you will be with me in paradise. Sounds good to me eh?
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Answer 8

Why posit this questions to just christians? Do they have a monopoly on the circumstances concerning death and loss? I don't think so. Christians are no different than every other human being on Earth. We are all composed of the same materials through the same genetic instructions found in our DNA. Christians just use less of what they were born with. (brains)
Are christians the only people who have lost loved ones? Nope.
Are christians the only people who feel? Nope.
Do christians have the market of overcoming trauma and crisis cornered? Nope.
If you want an educated answer, ask an educated and experienced person.
I'm not angry. I'm merely disturbed that someone would think that the advice given by christians is more valuable than advice given by anyone else. Be well.

Answer 9

1. I dont know.
2. Yes, and it has made my faith all the more concrete.
3. We as Christians know that ALL things work together for good, for those who love God...
4. Yes, but I think it is rare, and many people lie about it.
5. I highly doubt it; scripture makes it clear that we live on a different plane of existance.

The answer to all of your questions is prayer.

Answer 10

First, I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you.

When Adam and Eve ate the fruit, they let sin into this world. With sin, there came death, pain, suffering, and misery.

Your mother died because of sin. And she's not coming back. Someday, you will be with her again.

I lost my grandmother a few years ago. She was 62. She spend over half of the last few years of her life in the hospital. It was painful to watch. But I took comfort knowing this: she will never feel pain again. Never.