well im 16 and in high school. im bisexual but no body knows exept my girl friend that goes 2 the school.were engaged!and my best friend knows too! but im popular and have a pretty good rep....and people already asked me was i gay and i said no.well should i come out in school or not?
p.s.out of school i tell people im bi
2007-02-04 09:25:20 · 14 answers · asked by Pooki3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you are confused ..... 16 years old, you have 10 more years before your brain can physically be able to make sound decisions like that. Medical Fact.
2007-02-04 09:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure you're confused. You are trying to live 2 separate lives.
Sooner or later some one you have told will out you, either on purpose or by accident. I think you could either prepare for it, or take control and come out on your own. You'll lose some and gain some friends. Your girlfriend may or may not be ready to come out, so I'd talk to her first, and respect her wishes. Talk to your closest friends next, so you know who you'll have there to support you. Remember that once you tell anyone, you be committed to telling the world, since people will talk.
You are young, and you still have a long time to live down any controversy you may stir up, if any one is bothered by it at all.
I guess I'd want to be most honest with myself, and tell the rest of the world to F-off if they can't deal with it. You know you're still a good person, your friends know, your family knows, a little detail like who you chose to be with shouldn't be a very big issue.
Good luck!
2007-02-04 17:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are entirely too young to know what you like.......If you feel like telling people thinking they would support you, you are in for a rude awakening. People are not ready to support gay/lesbian relationships and if you are so ready to come out I think you should tell your parents first because they will find out because its hard to keep something like this from your parents especially if you plan on telling the entire school because one of your friends parents will be disgusted by you and call your parents to confront them about this and also did you think about all the parents that would forbid their children for being friends with you. I don't think you are mentally and physically prepared for what comes along with your type of relationship and I beg you not to give up on men just yet. When you get to college there are more men from all walks of life and I'm sure if you give a good guy a chance he can change your mind back. I almost feel like someone turned you out at an early age and that is so unfortunate. DONT GIVE UP ON MEN
2007-02-04 17:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, 16 and engaged--to another girl? Bi-sexual and engaged-- to another girl? Yes, you are confused!
You would be throwing away a good reputation and likely making life a lot more difficult on yourself than it really needs to be at this point. It is not typical of bi-sexual women to marry other women, that's what lesbians do. Deciding to become engaged at 16 by itself is an indication of immaturity.
I'll likely get a lot of thumbs down on this one, but you asked for everyone's opinions and this is mine.
2007-02-04 17:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should just tell people the true..but don't make it sound like it's a big deal..and when they ask you if you are gay or bisexual...just tell them the truth...because i mean if you can't be comfortable with comfronting others about your sexuality..then well how are other people supposed to take it... but most importantly, just do what you think is the best thing to do.. and well ya i bet some people maynot except or like the fact that you are bisexual.. but hey that's their problem not yours.
Good Luck!
2007-02-04 17:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ok, look i have a friend whos bi and she thought that it was a good thing to tell ppl about herself being bi. well, it wasnt, now she only has 1 friend and thats me. everyone hates her and they all think shes gross. i feel so bad for her, so my advice to u is to not to tell anyone at all. if u do, make sure its the right ppl and u are prepared to be called really bad names, my friend cries every night b/c of everyone makin fun of her. she is 14 and in high school. so dont!
2007-02-04 17:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should rethink of it... I mean, it maybe just the age. There's so much confusion at your age. I don't understand why some people have doubts about their likes and dislikes. And you 'd better tell your parents. If you didn't have a problem with your choice you wouldn't be confused and you 'd be able to tell everyone without worrying about your reputation.
2007-02-04 17:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you, you should never ever be ashamed of who you are, but we very wary becuase some people are very close minded and may bully or be different to you because of it. You can either just let the people who know you well have the information, or you can tell everyone. Just be careful, its a sick sad thing that the world wont let people just be themselves, but it is that way. wishing you lots of happiness.
2007-02-04 17:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey all you that are in the same shoes, how about giving this girl good advice? Share how you came out. And do your parents know? It would be better coming from you then to find out any other way.
2007-02-04 17:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a good rep. you may not want to tell the school. if you like how things are going don't say
2007-02-04 17:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by HorseLover#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋