REposting Question for more answers. I'm 28 black female & i broke up with my black b/friend of 18 months 3 months ago.He was fine with the breakup until he learned that i was seeing a white guy.My ex now comes to my house unannouned just to see if the new guy is with me.My ex told me,it's the ultimate insult for a black girl to leave a black man 4 a white man.I don't know what to do cause i'm scared that my ex wants to chase this guy away.I'm not yet inlove with the guy but i want to give it a try.I ve not had any success with the men i dated,so i thought,why not try outside my race & so far so good.Infact really good when it comes to sex.I love the way he loves me.I feel happy when i'm with him.I ve never been with a guy who loves to show me off.Something's very different about him compared to my Exs apart from the race.I feel important & wanted by him.I'm scared my Ex wants to ruin this 4 me.I ve not told this guy i'm seeing about my Ex.I just told him we can only meet at his house.
2007-02-04 09:18:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also feel like my girlfriends are telling my Ex things because they are jealous.You know how we girls talk about the new guys we are seeing but somehow my Ex confronts me with the info about this guy. My Ex says i must stop seeing this guy or else. Should i tell this new guy about my ex? I don't want to cause he just might leave and i'm having fun with him. My ex says if the new guy was Black he would have no problems with him.I aksed my Ex to stop calling and coming to my place but he will not listen.I ve gone as far cutting contact with 2 of my friends because they were betraying me.For the last 2 weeks i have been living with my parents to avoid my ex. The guy i'm dating now asked me why and i did not have an answer. I spend my weekends with him at his house but i fear that my friends will give my Ex his address and my ex will come to fight him.I think there is potential of us having a serious relationship..what should i do?
2007-02-04 09:19:11 · update #1
Tell your ex you didn't leave him FOR a white man, but you left him because your ex is a jerk.
2007-02-04 09:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex that his problem is just that it's his problem not yours; remind him that you are exes and to stay out of your business. Tell him you don't want to involve the police but you will if that's what it takes to keep him out. And you need to be prepared to follow up if necessary. Do what you want though go where your heart leads you if you want the new guy by all means keep him; sounds like he is yours anyway. Do tell him about your ex though he should be aware of the situation. When someone cares for someone else race should never be an issue.
2007-02-04 09:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the ex is threatening you and your new boyfriend to the extent that you have had to avoid your own home, something has to be done. You need to tell your boyfriend what is going on so that he is aware of the situation. This isn't just jealousy, it is criminal harassment. I would talk to the police and get a restraining order.
2007-02-04 09:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by M L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Restraining order. Don't take this to lightly if he has a tendency to be violent there could be harm to you or your boyfriend. Take the proper action if he shows up unannounced again and wont leave call the cops and they will give you all of the info you need.
2007-02-04 09:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by meh1331 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a white man, Id have to say he is insulted. He has feeling of betrayal because you and him are both black and have different cultural backgrounds. He also sounds a little racist. If he wasnt racist, he would have gotten mad at a black man as well.
2007-02-04 09:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by tigerbaby99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your new boyfriend about your ex and what he is saying, be honest with him, at least he will know whats going on. and tell your ex if he does not stop harrassing you that you will file charges against him. he has no right to tell you who you can see, even if hes white red, or whatever color he is. and stick to your decision . and file an order of protection. and as for your so called friends tell them to mind their own business. and if they like your ex more than you, tell them to stay with him. good luck. but do tell your boyfriend.
2007-02-04 09:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-boyfriend is a racist, and if he threatens you in any way for dating someone of a different race, then you can file harrassment charges on him by going to the police.
This is the 21st century, not 1920's Alabama.
2007-02-04 09:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by shanhelp 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont no what ur exs problem is. i think you and you rescent guy sound good, if he makes you feel special and all that. i say, good luck, and dont let some psycho ex (it sounds like somebody i know, by the way) get in the way. he sounds like a nice guy. race dosent matter, everyone is people, colour shouldn't be a problem. it should matter on who you want to be with, not who your ex wants you to be with.
2007-02-04 09:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex. It'll make everything worse if your ex does get wind of his address and randomly does something to your current guy. He has the right to know your situation.
2007-02-04 09:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by Vshak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Horse
2016-05-24 06:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋