i am dating someone who seems to need alot of attention.... when we arent with one another, she constantly im's or emails me... after spending a whole weekend together, she im'ed me constantly for a few hours until i finally told her she was kind of crowding me.....i told her she should try to not talk to me for a day or two to make me miss her/ want to talk to her.... that lasted for only one day and now its back to constant messaging... what should i do? thanks for your answer
2007-02-04 09:06:51 · 28 answers · asked by jim 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she bugs you already.... it's only going to get worse. Even if you tell her to leave you alone for a day or two... you still know that it was your decision and that if it was up to her she would be IMing you.There is no challenge at all for you, right? People have different levels of affection and need certain amounts of "together" time. Seems like you two are totally different. Doesn't sound like a good match...sorry. If you are going to end the relationship- the sooner the better(sounds like she really likes you).
2007-02-04 09:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by skygirlchristine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh.
Find another one. It won't stop, trust me. She'll resent every second you spend away from her. God forbid you should spend a night with your buddies, you'll never hear the end of it from her.
Find a woman who has a life of her own. There are plenty of girls out there who have friends to spend time with, volunteer work, work projects, hobbies, etc. These are the kind you need! You need someone who not only won't crowd you, but who has interesting things to talk about and do that don't involve you! Then you will each have something to contribute to the relationship rather than her relying on you to provide all the entertainment. That's a terrible strain and won't last long.
2007-02-04 09:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you could get her interested in a hobby, or activity that doesn't involve you? Try giving her a subscription to a woman's gym or something for valentines day. (warning if you want to keep her try coming up with a woman's club that isn't a gym, she may take it the wrong way) But at least if she dumps you , at least you can get some breathing room. She needs to get a life.
Tell her you have a job to do and the constant writing her may put your job in danger.
Another idea invite her to go hunting with you, and make her skin her own kills. Spend several hours a week doing stuff that she doesn't like, so she either has to learn to like skinning animals, and watching hockey or she has to learn to let you have some peace.
2007-02-04 09:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mad Maxine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She texts everyday?? Wow...Does she have a life? Like work, hobbies, friends ? Then again, I've always been the quiet type.
You could talk to her again. Or try responding to her texts, emails or phone calls after 3 days or so. Keep it a habit and maybe she'll get the idea?
If that doesn't work- you'll have to dump her for being too dense to get the message.
2007-02-04 09:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by violetkites 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has problems. I really think she needs help. She seems very needy of your attention and also seems like she is keeping tabs on you. Maybe she doesn't really trust you on some level and is in a way checking up on you. This kind of behavior will only get worse. I am sure you mean well and don't want to hurt her feelings but get her into counseling of some kind if you want this relationship to go somewhere. Otherwise get out before she gets more involved and entangeled in your life.
2007-02-04 09:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by cricket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah thats a little extreme. Like most women want more attention than men do, just as a rule but that much isnt normal. Is she insecure? I dont know, you already tried to talk to her, and most people would take a hint at that point. She sounds really annoying to be honest lol. Depends how much you like her and if thats the only thing thats wrong it probably isnt that big a deal (you could do a lot worse if thats her hugest flaw).
2007-02-04 09:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by radiancia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is insecure. Some people are just way to needy and unfortunately, they end up pushing away the people they need the most. Tell her that you care about her a lot, but you need some time to yourself also. I don't know how old she is, but she sounds really young. Maybe she needs a job or a hobby so she doesn't obsess over you all the time.
2007-02-04 09:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably a woman very driven . You r a lucky man to get that attention. If u like her she will grow on u but don't let her bother u... Its hard to find people that really care about you. remember that...Be patient until u either get sick of her or better yet , really develope a relationship then tell her how u feel. Time has a way of working things out.
2007-02-04 09:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a b/f like that. Six, seven, eight phone calls a day--at first I liked the attention, but then it got on my nerves....and now I have no b/f because I broke up with him. He has issues and needs counseling, and your g/f might have serious issues as well---this is not about getting attention, this is a sign of total insecurity...
2007-02-04 09:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by rvrmldnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't answer her emails or her im's. she is a lil over to possessive and she needs to stop worrying about what youare doing every min of the day and get a life of her own. how long have you been seeing her is it a new relationship or an old one if it is a new one then tell her to stop it or you are goingg to get so annoyed with her that you are not goin to want to see her or do anything with her see where that goes from there
2007-02-04 12:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋