Okay, so I have been trying my hardest to avoid this married guy at work that I am attracted to. I want to stay out of it, but he seems to always keep helping me out with things, asking me how I'm doing EVERY DAY, and just always sounding concerned about how I'm doing etc. It's almost too nice for me, which makes me think he's interested in starting something. I have been working very hard to avoid him, like barely saying hello in the morning and just saying a quick "bye" before leaving, but he has an extra question for me or something to ask. It's making it very hard for me because I am very attracted to him, but what else can I do to stay out of this? Why won't he just ignore me? Is he really THAT concerned with my well being, or is their another motive? Could he just be "being nice"?
2007-02-04 08:52:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try putting yourself in the shoes of his wife. That's all you need to make a decision. If you think its fine, then go ahead, but if you don't, then leave him alone. Just remember..................... Karma............ It's a biatch
2007-02-04 08:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Suzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he recognizes you may be succeptible to him. If you encourage it, you are setting yourself up long-term for a broken heart. His motive? Like many shady individuals, he is casting a hook to see if you will jump on the bait. You need to look him directly in the eye the next time he attempts to capture your attention and state, "Silly boy...with all your questions, I thought you may have had an interest in me. Then, I thought about it and realized that a nice married man like you would never ever cross that boundary with a nice girl like me!" Smile...and walk away. Smart girl!
2007-02-04 08:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Amy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he treat you in comparism to others? Does he treat you better or the same? If he treats you better, then stay out of it! Messing with a married man is bad business. You can wait until he sincerely asks you out somewhere when you can flat out reject him and explain how it isn't going to work. If he never moves in, then stop staring at him! haha, Good luck!
2007-02-04 08:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by snowthump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be nice for now. Maybe he just thinks of you as a good friend, and likes to talk to you. You might be paranoid a little right now. If he advances onto anything further, and you are absolutely sure he is crushing on you, then start ignoring him.
2007-02-04 08:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get yourself caught up in a mess like that! I'd say stay away from him and if he ever makes a move or comment than tell him to bug off!
2007-02-04 08:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by harv_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm many times that way clearly. somewhat probable a sprint too advantageous. yet each now and then, like previous due final night and in the present day, that gets shoved out the window and that i might desire to attempt like hell just to be polite.
2016-09-28 10:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing fine with your short answers. Even when he continues to ask things about you, just continue with being vague and short. He'll eventually get the hint that you don't need his attention to feel good about yourself. He needs to take that energy and focus more on his wife.
Men, I swear!
2007-02-04 08:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by gnuck gnuck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would answer with one word and try to avoid him,he will get the hint if not tell him how you feel about married men. Go girl!
2007-02-04 08:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he is for sure into you ....be nice to him in all but you do not want to turn into "the other woman"! i suggest you avoid him and if you happen to bump into him sometime just b friendly then forget about it and go on with your day trust me you do not want to get in a mess like that!
2007-02-04 08:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by moco-frap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run...he has other intentions and you both stand to hurt everybody involved. He needs to learn that be has to commit to his relationship or get oput of it, and if he is this unfaithful to her he would be to you too. This will never work out well. Befriendly but approprialty distant.
2007-02-04 08:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by drjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋