is it bad that im still a virgin at 19 i know I'm going to make it too 20 in a way im scared cause my friends all tell me that its a lot of pain and i hate pain but i a way im not waiting too get married because i dont belive in marriage
2007-02-04 08:51:22 · 26 answers · asked by BROK3NLI3Z20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not bad that you're a virgin if you haven't found someone you want to be with right now. You don't have to get married to have sex, but you're smart not to be with just anyone, especially with all of the diseases around these days. As for pain the first time -- it depends on the person. It may not be such a big deal for you. Don't worry about what other people say. Take your time and wait for your moment.
2007-02-04 08:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that's a great accomplishment. Most girls don't even make it past 17 or 16. You should be so proud. And from what I've heard it does hurt..but the thing that no one bothers to mention is that when it is with the right person it won't hurt as much. Wanna know why? Cause when you find that right person who actually cares about you and not just getting some...he'll be gentle and make you feel as comfortable as possible because he cares about how you feel. So don't just give it away to someone cause 8 out of 10 times he'll do it hard and the way he wants to just because he wants it and doesn't care who he gets it from. So you should be very proud. And hey, who cares what your friends say about the topic...at least you know that you're gonna do it with the right one...and not just anyone. So congrats. And happy early B-day. Hope it's great.
2007-02-04 08:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by missattractive1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a bad thing that you are a virgin ,I think that that is great,as far as your friends you should not worry about what they tell you about what your views of your body and what youdo with it.As far as not believing in marriage thats ok too,but there is still the fact that God has made you for that someone special and the person He has made for you too.Dont go after something physical just to say that you havebecause all THAT will acomplish is pain right now your heart is not clouded by the intimacy that you feel when you give yourself wholly to someone,no matter what people say it is impossible to just F&#* someone and not have feelings for them...you are at your most vunerable,naked both physicaly and emotionaly when you are with someone in that way .And everytime you do you just build up scar tissue on your heart that after awhile it becomes to hard to "feel" the person you are with.So just be with youconsider it a vacation at which you are becoming that person that someone is bound to fall in love with!! good luck and God bless!!!!
2007-02-04 09:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not bad that you are still a virgin, you respect yourself and that should be the most important thing, I'm not going to answer the pain question I wouldn't know, but I can't imagine it being too great the first time for a girl, just try and take it real slow.
2007-02-04 08:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a girl and a virgin at that age is NOTHING to be ashaimed about. I'll be 20 in July and happily a virgin.
It's just that you haven't found the right guy yet. It's great that you haven't wasted your virginity- something you can't get back- on somebody who you don't care about.
Being a guy and a virgin is a bigger deal, I think, I know this guy whose 26 and I'm pretty sure he's one.
2007-02-04 08:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by JDA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set age. Whenever you find the right guy and are ready to give him your most special gift, then you'll know the time is right. It can be painful at first, but the pain quickly gives way to pleasure. If the guy really cares about you, he will be gentle and loving and you will only experience slight pain, which quickly subsides. Good luck!
2007-02-04 08:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am about to be 16 years old i have already had my first timehunn you bein a virgin is great! dont do it until u find the rit person! and the pain is differ for girl like for my friend she said it hurt but for my first time it didnt it felt good like it should! maby itll filll weird at first bc something isnt usaully in u but yull get used to it as minuets go by also it depends on the size of the guy!
2007-02-04 09:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and still a virgin. No big deal even if you dont believe in marrige you should still wait till you find someone special. as far as if it hurts I dont know my friends say it hurts a little at first. they told me when i finally do the deed that I should take my time and relax then it wont hurt.
2007-02-04 08:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, why do you care what your friends say?
And if you're scared then stay a virgin...don't have sex because you feel like you need to, or because you're embarrassed. Wait for the right guy at the right time.
2007-02-04 08:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
garfields is correct , just take good care of ur virginity dont give up to the bad man , give to the 1 will wait for u in altar will give u heaven and earth , dont be hurry will comes to u naturally
2007-02-04 08:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋