Is it like a natural human thing that is nothing to worry about, or does it mean theres a problem somewhere?
I adore this bloke I'm with he's perfect and wonderful and so you know, I love the guy. But theres this friend who for some reason I just want to launch myself onto him, not a relationship or anything, just pure lust. Why?
Obviously I'm not going to do anything, I've just invented new games with my boyfriend and I'm avoiding this other guy. I'm just wondering.
2007-02-04 08:47:55 · 20 answers · asked by floppity 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Me yes, it's stressing me out though.
I'm not going to do anything either (we're married and have kids) but after 15 years this other person seems a bit more interesting. Good luck to you. Yes I think it CAN indicate a problem, not necessarily.
2007-02-04 10:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess of Grammar 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
In a word, nope. If what you feel is genuine love, and i do mean genuine, then you would have eyes for no one else. Took me a long time to find someone who i really loved and i can't even look at another man in the same way. He's the absolute only one.
2007-02-05 05:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. You see, there's lust, and then there's love. You love one guy, but you lust the other. You see, if you and your 'Love' are passionate, maybe you guys arent passionate enough, and you want more. Or is it that your 'Love; is holding back on you. I would if i was you, msybe take your relationship a step forward. Dont go too far if you guys arent ready. Dont worry though, as long as you notice what your doing, and your trying to stay away, i think your ok.
2007-02-04 09:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There are some reasons for this kind of activity. I have detected at leat the need to be accepted by several partners or to be sure that there shall be at least somebody who cares (= the need of security).
This kind of double affair is, however, really confusing and can lead to severe mental disorders. Better to avoid if possible, I'll recommend...
2007-02-04 09:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by silberstein_9 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie it's okay to feel that way. Just keep in mind that you should not let those feelings overcome what you feel for your boyfriend.
By asking this question one can tell that you do care for this person just by worrying about how your thoughts will affect the relationship. How sweet!
2007-02-04 10:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by badmab07 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's why we have the word: commitment,.... which forces us to choose everyday to do what's right- as in good- not hurtful to anyone... or succumb to lust- not good- destructive.
2007-02-04 09:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a natural thing to feel so dont worry about it most people come across this at least once in there lives it is normal
2007-02-04 10:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Don 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
uh-oh lol thats all iv'e really got to say
um, hmm.
yeh, just try not to have those lustful thought turn into lustful actions okay?
then you'll be safe...for the most part i sapose.
2007-02-04 08:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure you can. You're still human, and you're still the same person you were before you met your boyfriend! Just give him plenty of reasons to trust you. If you love him like you say you do, that'll be easy!
2007-02-04 09:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Absolutely!
2007-02-04 09:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋